Your Friends Affair .....

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Your Friends Affair .....
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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 10:16pm
Have you ever had a friend who was having an affair? How did you react?

Check out this video, Your Friend's Affair, and see what Tracey Cox has to say.















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Registered: 04-20-2008
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 11:12pm

Hi Misty. I don't have to watch the video. I would mind my own business. If he or she wanted my advice and or opinion that's a different story.


DD

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Registered: 05-14-2008
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 12:25am
My best friend had an affair several years ago.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 6:44am
"If he or she wanted my advice and or opinion that's a different story."


See, that's a place you and Tracey differ. According to her, it's a friends job to offer support, but she warns against giving advice or an opinion in this situation.















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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 6:48am
I would want to be that friend left out in the dark too. I'm just no good at keeping my mouth shut -- I would end up telling my friend how I felt about what he/she was doing.















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Registered: 04-20-2008
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 7:11am

Hi. There are times you have to go with your gut feelings. Years ago I knew my best friends wife was cheating on him. I honestly didn't know what to do. I was married at the time and asked my wife what she thought. She gave me good advice. "Don't get involved,he will find out sooner or later." Well he did. But when he did I was the first only one that he came to for advice. Well it's 32 yrs later and although we are 2,625 miles away from each we remain best friends! We hooked up with him on our western trip in July."Big smile here"


DD


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 7:19am

I suspect the rules do change if you're dealing with the person being cheated on vs. the person doing the cheating.

I wouldn't find that to be too awkward, but when someone tells you they are having an affair, or they want to have an affair, knowing that puts you in a difficult position.
















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Registered: 01-24-2007
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 8:42am

I dont need to watch it either.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 9:36am
I didn't watch the video. I did have a friend that had an affair. It didn't bother me at all. We all do what we need/want to do and have to live with it. Who am I to say what's right and wrong.

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Registered: 05-04-2008
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 9:40am
What if the friend is using you as an alibi to cover his/her tracks?

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 3:16pm

She actually addressed that in the video also. Basically saying that as a friend, you shouldn't allow that. It creates a situation that puts you in the middle of something you don't belong in.

Personally, I wouldn't want my friend using me as an alibi anyway. To me, that's a violation against our friendship.
















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