Lack of sex question

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Lack of sex question
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Wed, 08-20-2008 - 6:17pm

Is having no sexual desire for your spouse (which

 

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 6:48pm

I don't think there's a one size fits all answer for that question. For me, instead of leaving, I would try to find out why there was no desire. Obviously there was at one time, so something (or several somethings) happened along the way to change that. Rarely is it due to just one of the partners or one event, and rarely can it be fixed with just the effort of one of the partners.

If my SO wasn't interested in helping to repair the relationship, then I would start thinking about my own options, including whether or not I wanted to stay in the relationship.







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Registered: 08-01-2006
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 8:30pm
There's really no correct answer to this question. All it does is raise other questions... How is the relationship otherwise? Are you both still in love with each other? Do you get along? What happened to stop the sex?

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:13pm

Your reasons for leaving a relationship are yours alone to make.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:29pm
I agree w/the other posters. IMO, when the intimacy in the relationship goes away -- there's a lot of other issues in the relationship that led to that point. I think it's worth trying to work on the relationship via counseling, but only if both parties are really willing to do the work -- otherwise nothing is really resolved. I speak from experience as my ex & I divorced after over 20 yrs together (married 19). It took a long time for me to realize exactly what all the problems were, for me, but in the end, I chose to be true to myself and not continue to live unhappily, and suffer from health issues brought on by all the stress.
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Registered: 12-06-2007
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 6:42am

You are all absolutely right.

 

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Registered: 07-07-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 12:47pm

I didn't see any posters who mentioned children...which brings up another bunch of questions.


The age of the children?

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 1:07pm

No children, thank goodness, well, 2 furry ones, and it's hard enough dealing with what happens to them.

 

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Sat, 08-30-2008 - 10:15am

I was in the same position as you. I stuck it out for 11 years and we finally parted. God I turned into a horny woman overnight. So yes.


However It will depend if you have children like I did and stayed to give them a stable upbringing. However I have never regretted leaving my husband.