Too big? Help!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2007
Too big? Help!
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Sun, 08-24-2008 - 3:37pm

Last night my new boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. We have great chemistry, but the man is HUGE. I had expected to be a little sore because it's been a while, but there were times last night that felt just like I was a virgin again, and not in a good way...

On top of everything we had some communication problems because english isn't his first language and, well, he was having some trouble concentrating to understand what I was saying. What can i do to make this easier on both of us?

Please help!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-04-2008
In reply to: shygal2007
Sun, 08-24-2008 - 3:45pm
I think you should both talk about all the issues that came up during your encounter outside the bedroom, so whatever clarification or reinforcement that is needed can be done without the content being directed at his 'sexual ego'. When you bot are clear on what your both needs are, it would be wise to keep some lube on hand just in case things get a bit difficult.

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she-devilGNB - last night



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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: shygal2007
Sun, 08-24-2008 - 7:48pm

Maybe you should give him some English lessons!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: shygal2007
Sun, 08-24-2008 - 9:14pm

Welcome to the board, shygal2007.

I would definitely recommend talking to him before having sex again. Let him know what was painful, and perhaps what you need to be more aroused. Take things more slowly, and use lube to help keep you from becoming irritated.

You might want to look at some different positions too. iVillage has a tool, and you can look at positions that work well if there is a larger penis involved. Here's the link:

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http://choosers.ivillage.com/love/perfect_position/launcher.php







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