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Not enough sex
| Sun, 08-24-2008 - 9:04pm |
I am new to this message board. I need some advise. I am a healthy fit 44 year old woman that lives with a 40 year old man. He only wants to have sex about once a month. I would like to have sex at least 3 or 4 times a week. I have asked him for more but he either laughs it off or says he is tired. I am thinking about sex all of the time. Probably because I am not getting much at all. I am starting to think about finding a lover to satisfy me. I have never believed in cheating but I am so unfulfilled. Does anyone have any advise?

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Welcome to the board, dmiller.
When you say he laughs off your attempts to talk to him, have you really sat him down and had a serious conversation with him? When you talk with him, it should be outside of the bedroom, and it should be done in a way that doesn't put blame on him. Using "I" language instead of "you" language ... like "I need more sex" or "I would like us to be intimate more often".
It's easy for couples to get caught up in day-to-day life and sex can get put on the back burner. Sometimes when you're trying to reconnect and get back on track, it's helpful to set a schedule. I know it doesn't sound romantic, but it's a way that many have found their way back to a healthy sex life. Ask him if he would be willing to have a weekly date night with you, like maybe Saturday night.
If he doesn't seem receptive to the conversation, or having a night set aside for the two of you each week, then I would suggest counseling to him. The two of you can see a therapist together and see if you can come up with a compromise that works for both of you.
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A lot of couples go through changes in their relationships. Sometimes one or the other partner does want sex more often than the other has interest in.
Was there a time when you were both equal in your desire? If so, can you think of anything that has changed since then?
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I am a 43yr old female. I live with my partner who is 32! I seem to have exactly the same problem and it has been driving me crazy. I have began to wonder if perhaps its our age. We seem to be both goinin through a heightened sexual need. I have suggested to my partner that any man would give his high teeth to have a horny female at home, but he has talked to many work mates and this doesn't seem to be the case.
I find imagination and a clitoral stimulator can releve the intense 'desire' but I still love the real thing. I find I have to be patient. Everyone has a time of day that they find more interesting and I try to 'catch' him at this point. Sex is not restricted to the bedroom or evening/night. If you have any experiences you would like to share or questions you would like to ask, I would be more than willing to share.
Hello again, Jayfay.
I've read most of your posts here, and seeing that you're 43, I wonder if you're not experiencing what many of us here have in that age bracket. You'll find that several of the female members here have become nearly insatiable in their 40s! Even with our long-term partners, we're finding that we're worse than a bunch of 17 year old boys, LOL.
Stick around. I think you'll like it here!
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we're finding that we're worse than a bunch of 17 year old boys, LOL.
The sex drive of a 17yo boy combined with the experience,
Mrs P
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