Masturbation to Orgasm

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Registered: 08-29-2008
Masturbation to Orgasm
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Fri, 08-29-2008 - 10:33pm

Hello everyone. I am new to the board. My question may be unusual and concerns masturbation when staying at the home of another person. Several times a year,I have to visit a close family member who lives out of town for extended periods of time. She has a small home, and I always sleep on the couch in the living room. I have a high sex drive and generally masturbate to orgasm most days, if I have not had sex with my wife that day. For some reason, I simply cannot reach orgasm while staying at my relative's house. I have no trouble at all maintaining an erection, but I never even feel close to reaching orgasm.

When I am there,the only time I can masturbate is on the couch (in the dark) after my relative goes to bed. The shower does not work, because the hot water runs out. (I know -- just take a cold shower). My first thought is that I am nervous about getting caught. However, there is really no possibility whatsoever of getting "caught in the act", as my relative sleeps like a stone and I would hear if she got up. I realize I could just forgo masturbation for the duration, but that is easier said than done. (These trips are quite long.) I would be grateful for any thoughts or suggestions.

Thanks,

Mat

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 08-30-2008 - 9:02am

Welcome to the board, Mat.

It's pretty difficult to masturbate if your mind isn't in the right place ... having an erection doesn't equate to your mind necessarily being in the right frame.

Is there a lot that you're thinking about while you're there, or stress to deal with? Missing being home, or having to take care of the relative?

If I were you, I would try to relax better prior to going to bed for the night. Maybe have a glass of wine, or read a book for a while. As far as the bathroom, since the hot water runs out, perhaps you could masturbate prior to your shower (in the bathroom). You could also try soaking in the tub in the evening to both relax and have the opportunity to masturbate.







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Registered: 08-29-2008
Sun, 08-31-2008 - 10:48pm

Hi Misty,

Nice to meet you. Thanks for the advice. I will try your suggestions on my next trip. I do generally have a lot going on during these trips, so I am sure that is part of it.

Mat