Does size really matter???

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Does size really matter???
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Mon, 09-01-2008 - 2:20am

I mean there is always a debate on this, but I wonder when it comes to sex what is really the important between the couple, the size or the performance? I mean does a big.... really performs well or a small one can do the same?


Are guys with big ones can perform bad or guys with small ones perform well?


What is really important in a relationship size or performance?

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 9:12am

Hello, Maru, and welcome to the board.

I'm not really sure from your post if you were asking a question or sort of thinking out loud. There have been size debates here, often then can get ugly. If you want to get an idea of what people think in relation to size mattering, you could do a search on the board for past discussions.

Just under the "Let's Talk About Sex" heading for the board, there is a search space "find messages about". You can enter your search terms there and find many conversations.

My personal opinion is that size does not make a good lover. A good lover is someone who invests him/herself into the event. That includes the enjoyment of all involved and goes way beyond just being a body with a part during the event.

I'm not sure if you are a male or female, but do you have past lovers? If so, what has made the difference for you as far as if size mattered?







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Registered: 12-12-2006
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 9:50am

A man is whatever size he is.

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Registered: 11-09-2006
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 12:27pm
First of all, for me, a man's penis is more exciting TO SEE and TO IMAGINE the thicker and longer it is. I hope not to hurt any man's feelings, however, for me it is true I find it delicious to masturbate a very large penis (provided I like him of course), and I don't fantasize about men with very short ones. And I admit, too, that sometimes I want to "be filled up completely." A friend of mine, a woman with an inferiority complex I suppose, tells me she can't get rid of the thought that a "true woman" can take in a really big penis. She expects her man to have an erection at the mere sight of her, as if his size was a compliment paid to her. How can a human being separate imagination from the enjoyment of something? I simply can't do it. Don't men admire larger breasts rather than smaller; don't men admire smaller waists? Shapely bottoms? I am talking about just seeing and imagining. The best way to lengthen a penis is for the man to have a woman who truly loves him; then her imagination will be on fire for him; then she'll be more than content, she'll be joyful with his tiny thing.
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Mon, 09-01-2008 - 3:23pm

"... she'll be joyful with his tiny thing."


The way you said that got a chuckle out of me. :)


Btw, nice avatar.




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Registered: 10-15-2006
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 8:54pm


LOL!


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Mon, 09-01-2008 - 9:44pm
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 10:22pm

I think that when it comes to sex that the two people involved fit well together and that means personality, sexual tastes and preferences, physically feel good together and enjoy each other and really want to please each other.

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Registered: 12-16-2007
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 11:12pm

Okay, I just can't help but post to this one.


I have never been with someone who was 'well endowed' and honestly, I don't think I'd know what I'd do if I ever were to be with someone who was in the future.


I have only been with two men. My 'first' and then the one I married. Neither one 'had a lot to offer'. The first was good (or so I thought). What did I know? I was 22 and this was all I knew.


My now dh, on the other hand, definitely showed me how incredible things could be. I always joke about his 'big 3 inch'. (So I haven't taken a ruler to measure it. I measured it with my hand and then used a ruler later! LOL!)


All I do know is, it doesn't matter if he's well endowed or not. If he knows how to use it and how to satisfy you then that's all that does matter. I'm sure if I wanted to I could've had some men who were bigger but to be honest, I really like what I've got in him. ;)


Like the saying goes..."It's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean."


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Registered: 09-05-2008
Fri, 09-05-2008 - 12:29am
Does size matter? I suppose it does, but not just for the man -- for the women too. I'm definite believer in how the Kama Sutra matches women and men based on genital size. Match the large men with the larger women who need more. Match the smaller men with the women who are need less.
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Registered: 01-06-2004
Sun, 09-14-2008 - 3:17am

This is person isn't talking about imagining........ infact that's a whole

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