Intimacy after Cancer Battle

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Registered: 09-08-2008
Intimacy after Cancer Battle
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Mon, 09-08-2008 - 12:17pm
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 2:10pm
Hello, (((((Isabella))))), and welcome to the board.

I suspect that through the past year, your role as "wife" has taken on a whole new meaning in your relationship with DH. Challenges can often make us suppress our feelings and emotions, in search of the strength to help a loved one on their own journey. I think there's a natural progression to those emotions, one of which is fear, often another is anger.


While I suspect that you don't love your DH any less, I think you probably have your own healing to do. Your own search for peace, and the way to look past all of the fears and roles that you were handed during this time.


I think time will be a major player in this process, but in the meantime, you could start initiating more date-like activities with your DH. Sex may not always be the result, but in the process of learning to enjoy each other the way you once did, you may find those old sparks get reignited.





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Registered: 10-30-2007
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 3:21pm

Welcome Isabella,


HUGS


Are you feeling like sex will hurt him in any way or make him sick again?

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Registered: 12-25-2006
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 3:39pm

Hi Isabella,


I may be very off-base here, but I have had multiple experiences of being my DH's "care-taker" and I have to say that after the most serious incidents I have found it takes quite some time to switch roles back to DW from "care-taker".


I distance myself from the emotional part of our relationship when he is at his sickest and