Your Best Sexual Partner

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Your Best Sexual Partner
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Mon, 09-15-2008 - 6:11pm
Do you feel that the partner in your relationship, that you are in love with, and plan to marry, should also be the one that you enjoy, and are most pleasured with sexually over any other previous partners? I feel that the ultimate love and the ultimate sexual experience should go together.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 9:16pm

I feel that if you had asked me that question nearly 18 years ago when I was falling in love with my now husband that it would have given me a lot to think about.

There were a lot of things about our relationship, about him that made me know I loved him completely. Was he the best sex I had ever had? Absolutely NOT. Were we sexually compatible, committed to each other and totally in love -- YES.

I'm so glad I didn't try to compare him to past lovers. We continue to reach new heights in our sex life ... if you asked me now if he was the best lover I've ever had, my answer would be a definite YES!





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Mon, 09-15-2008 - 9:26pm
I envy you Misty, I hope to have what you do someday with someone special. (I know, off topic... I seem to be good at that.

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 9:28pm
I agree with everything Misty said. Sex with DW was not the best I'd ever had on our wedding day. It is definitely the best sex I've ever had now. With the right partner, you'll have a lifetime to learn about how to please one another.


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 9:39pm

(((((KD))))), I hope you find that too!


It's never wrong to look to the future with hope and an open heart!





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Mon, 09-15-2008 - 9:49pm
{{{{{ HUGS }}}}} KD !!


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Mon, 09-15-2008 - 10:33pm
I can only say my DW is the best sexual partner I have ever had, then again she is the only sexual partner I have ever had. We keep expanding our enjoyment of each other after 10 years. It has not gotten stale or boring. I do look forward to any opportunity we have to pleasure each other and do some copulation!



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Registered: 08-30-2008
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 10:50pm
I would hope that that would be the case.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 6:57am

I think there's a difference between "great sex" and "the best sex ever".

I know in the case of my DH, the sex was great .... but in the early days, it wasn't absolutely the "best" sex of my life. As you grow in your relationship, the sex (hopefully) gets better.

I definitely had "love/lust/great sex" all wrapped in one as you stated. That's not what the OP is asking though .... he's expecting "the best", which can be very difficult to even isolate at times.

People fit together differently, they find what works for them, and they have their own individuality -- that can't be reproduced from one person to another. It's sort of like trying to pigeonhole the best hamburger you've ever had -- it's going to be different for everyone. Even the same hamburger will be appreciated differently by each person. Sometimes the hamburger tastes the best because of the anticipation or hunger for it .... sometimes it's an absolutely delicious hamburger, very satisfying -- but still not the best hamburger you've ever had.





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Registered: 10-30-2007
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 10:31am

Hello bluesky,


I have been thinking about this question a lot lately, so I look forward to all the responses.

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Registered: 09-05-2008
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 12:04pm
I would say no, it does not have to be the best. After all, we all have our preferences, but it should be "good enough" if that makes any sense.

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