Help w/ appearing sexier!

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Registered: 06-09-2004
Help w/ appearing sexier!
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Sat, 09-20-2008 - 12:15pm

Hi-


I am new to this board. I want to appear sexier, as I look very innocent & conservative. I am a nurse in the OR, so I can wear whatever I want to work, but have to change into scrubs while at work...there's not much I can do there, except wear different OR hats.


I am 5"1, ~92lbs. (recently lost weight), am flat chested, flat tummy, my butt is probably the best part of my body...I look good in jeans or a thong. My Hair is to my shoulders. It seems as if I need larger breasts to appear sexy..however that will not occur w/ me.


Advice please! Should I start by wearing sexy panties for me? What about tops? I really do not even require a bra.


I have a lot of sexual desires, and enjoy sexual activity, but if you saw me walking into work,

seachells

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 09-20-2008 - 2:54pm

Welcome to the board, Seachells.

I think the key to looking sexy is in feeling sexy. Start by thinking about what would make you feel sexy -- nice undergarments is a great place to start. If you think you need larger breasts to look sexy, maybe a push up or padded bra will help. You can also look at different types of shirts -- skin tight might be too revealing for your comfort zone, or might accentuate small breasts. Trying something that has a tailored look, like fitted bodice, and a padded bra might show some curvature that makes you feel sexier.

Also, things like heels instead of flats, blow drying your hair to have more volume or to be perfectly straight, or having a style that you wear short and very stylish might be where it's at for you.

Once you get some outfits that feel good, work on your thought process. Thinking sexy thoughts can help you feel sexy too. Don't be afraid to flirt with people, and carry yourself with a lot of confidence. All of those things can channel into sex appeal.





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Registered: 04-18-2008
Sat, 09-20-2008 - 3:47pm

Hi Seachells,


You already got a great response from Misty but I will put my 2 cents in.


I am similar stature to you. 5"1"but weigh a bit more, 106#/ I used to be closer to your weight pre-kids, but oh well, LOL. I totally understand the CUTE fix that us petite women can be stuck with but let me tell you what I have found. It really is all in YOUR ATTITUDE> yes, trying to find more mature, sexy clothes that fit can be a challenge but I found a great tailor to be a MUST!!! I did buy myself a set of playboy boobs a few years back and that made ME feel more sexy but my hubby says I was sexy both ways.


I saw a recent TV show Tyra Banks, I never saw it before but this show was women asking men what they found sexy. Yes men all agreed they preferred CURVES on women but how a woman projected herself made her curves more profound (we all have curves, )


Think of your sex appeal as an inner self pouring out. and it will.


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Registered: 06-09-2004
Sat, 09-20-2008 - 4:43pm

Thanks Misty & Liv-


When I go out, I do make my hair fuller, and try to make sure it looks nice. For some reason, I am feeling not sexy because of my small breasts. It seems like all of the clothing is made to accentuate breasts.


Liv- What are playboy boobs? I do have a water bra, and when I wear it, I think I look giant, but I probably look like a B cup :).


I know confidence and attitude are a huge part of it. I am trying to work on that. I think about sex a lot, love to read sexual stories. love phone sex, masturbate, etc. Perhaps being on this board & reading, will help me. I appreciate the welcome.

seachells

seachells

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Registered: 04-18-2008
Sat, 09-20-2008 - 6:49pm

Seachell


My Playboy boobs, as

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 09-20-2008 - 8:00pm

Reading on the boards and participating in the discussion will definitely help you get tips and keep your mind on sex. There are also tons of articles on iVillage!

You can search in one of three places on the board screen. In the darker pink section, the search bar will search all of iVillage. If you want to search just through the messages here, under the board title (Let's Talk about Sex), there's a "find messages about" window. The third type of search is an advanced search, where you can set more parameters for your search. That button is above the board name and slightly to the right.

The members here are great, so feel free to stick around!





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Registered: 06-09-2004
Sun, 09-21-2008 - 5:29am

Thanks Liv-


I feel if my breasts matched my butt, in proportion I mean, I would have a great body. I went to plastic surgeon I know, a few years ago, and he said, even if he placed the smallest implant in, they would not look good, as I do not have much skin, or tissue. He told me to wait until after I had children, because the skin would probably stretch out. I know they could place tissue expanders in, but my rib cage, chest is so narrow, I do

seachells

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Registered: 04-18-2008
Sun, 09-21-2008 - 9:51am

Seachells,


Do you mind me asking how old you are and how long ago you went for your consult? I just ask because I have two children I breast fed and NO noticeable change in my size or breast tissue during pregnancy or nursing.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 6:23am

Well....I think it all depends on what you "feel" is sexy.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )