Do women get pleasure from sex?

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Registered: 09-23-2008
Do women get pleasure from sex?
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Tue, 09-23-2008 - 10:52pm

I've always wondered this when watching pornos. When the guy is doing the girl in missionary or cowgirl position, it never seems as though the girl is enjoying it. In fact, she usually seems to get bored after a few seconds.

I wonder if girls need stimulation on the clitoris. Is the sex really pleasurable for women? It can't be as much as it is for the guys, right? Would you take oral sex over vaginal sex?

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Registered: 12-16-2007
Tue, 09-23-2008 - 11:12pm

"Is the sex really pleasurable for women?" Heck yeah! Especially if my h is doing all the right things! I guess I might be too 'easy' because all my h basically has to do is put a well positioned kiss on my neck and I'm all his. And when you add those kisses to the sex...I'd swear I've heard angels sing!


"Would you take oral sex over vaginal sex?" I don't know. I mean oral sex is good as long as he doesn't 'over do' it. I guess it all depends on the mood.


I don't know about other women but the only time I get 'bored' is when he seems to be having trouble finishing what he started and it seems like he'll never stop.


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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 12:08am

If all you know about sex is what you've seen in pornos, you are in BIG trouble!

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Registered: 09-23-2008
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 12:38am
What I mean, is that it's very hard for a woman to orgasm just from penetration. I think that's true for most woman, from what I've read and from what my female friends have told me. So, because of this, I've venture guessing that most women would prefer oral sex to plain vaginal sex. Obviously, a woman will still be aroused during sex, but since there's no clitoral touching, it can't be all that exciting for a woman.
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Registered: 09-20-2007
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 1:10am
I personally can have orgasms without any touching of my clitoris. I can climax during dreams. I can orgasm through flogging. Master doesn't need to touch my clitoris for me to orgasm. And yes. I can orgasm through penetration without any foreplay.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 1:58am

What your female friends are telling you is what THEY experience, and they can't speak for ALL women.


It's true that 80+% of women don't have orgasms from intercourse alone.

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Registered: 03-11-2005
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 4:52am
My wife loves sex. She is an orgasm machine. She orgasms from all sorts of things-intercourse, masturbation, oral, toys, anal and fantasies. We both love sex.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 7:11am
Welcome to the board, Jobriath.



You're correct in some of your thinking, but sex isn't always a black and white issue, there are many gray areas -- and the shades of gray vary for each individual.



The clitoris is the most sensitive and responsive part of the female anatomy. It's comparable to the glans on the penis (which is located at the base of the penis head). That doesn't mean that a man doesn't enjoy having other parts of the penis stimulated, or other parts of his genitals for that matter.



While stimulating the clitoris is usually the most direct route to having an orgasm for a woman, it's not necessary for all women to have their clitoris stimulated to reach orgasm. Also, in many intercourse positions, the clitoris can be stimulated (usually by the mans pubic bone), or either partner may use their fingers or a sex toy to stimulate the clitoris.


Woman can also be multi-orgasmic, and have orgasms during vaginal intercourse or activities that don't include the clitoris (like anal sex). To say that any of those events "can't be that exciting for women" is just wrong .... we all have our likes and dislikes.



Oral sex is great, but it's something that is different than penetrative sex. I wouldn't want to do without either. One isn't more likely to get me off than the other, and both have their own pleasures. I love that during oral sex I can get totally lost by laying my head back and closing my eyes if I want to. But then there are times that I just crave touching my partner, seeing him and watching what he's doing to me.


You mentioned missionary position and intercourse that you've seen in porno flicks. I'm not sure which one's your watching, but it sounds like the women are not being active in the event -- which is really what can make a difference. If she's laying there, and he's thrusting .... and she's just waiting for him to be "done" -- then NO, it's not too exciting. But obviously, you can see her err in the event. Great sex occurs when both partners are participating -- just laying there isn't much as far as participation goes.




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Registered: 01-17-2007
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 9:58am

Sex is FANTASTIC for this woman. I will take it oral or vaginal. Love it all ways.

Being really honest I love having my clitoris played with, but another that is very enjoyable for me, Is play with my breasts.