I'm having a problem (with orgasms)

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Registered: 10-05-2008
I'm having a problem (with orgasms)
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Sun, 10-05-2008 - 6:01pm

First off, why don't they have "mortified" listed as an emoticon???


Ok, here's the deal...I am having a real problem with orgasms.

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Sun, 10-05-2008 - 6:11pm
Welcome to the board, and there's no need to be mortified. What you experienced is called female ejaculation, and in happened in part because the head of his penis was stimulating your G-spot during sex. The fluid comes from the Skene's gland, and it isn't urine (for one thing, it doesn't smell like urine). Throw a towel down on the bed, and you'll be fine.


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Registered: 12-16-2007
Sun, 10-05-2008 - 11:30pm

I agree with Steve. If you are afraid of 'wetting' the bed just go to the bathroom (if you can) before sex. And Steve is very right. When he hits your g-spot you just can't control what comes out of that gland. Throw a towel down and enjoy it! I know your sweetie is! (I would LOVE to have a g-spot orgasm just once in my life! You are SO lucky!)


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Registered: 10-05-2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 12:01am

I appreciate the input.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 1:27am

There is NOTHING to be horrified about.

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Registered: 03-03-2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 5:01am

If it helps you *I* have FE.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 8:58am

Welcome to the board, justagoofygirl.

I don't think you'll be able to enjoy the pleasures of FE until you're comfortable about what you're calling the mess. For me, the liquid is sweet smelling and tasting if anything. The time you smelled some urine was also the time you didn't urinate first. When you urinate, you actually clean out your urethra. Most likely what happened was that you had some urine stored up in your urethra that was a little older; thus the odor.

I agree with the others who say a towel isn't enough to keep the bed dry, and you've gotten some great suggestions about what to use. For us, I've taken an older bathmat and folded it in half (rubber sides together). It then fits in a pillow case nicely. This is the mat we use beneath us to collect any FE. It works great, and I can lay it over the edge of the tub to dry. It doesn't need washed every time it's used which is also nice.

As others have said too, FE and orgasm are not the same thing. That's another reason why you are probably wondering why it doesn't give you the pleasure you're seeking. When the two happen together, it is amazing though! I suspect once you start enjoying the FE, you'll be able to relax enough to also start having orgasms at the same time. The beauty of a g-spot orgasm is that it doesn't make you overly sensitive like a clitoral one does. This is great when you want to have multiples ;-)

Once you start FEing, it is very difficult to control, but I wouldn't worry about it happening during oral. First off, most women need the g-spot contact to make it happen. Also, once I learned how to FE, it was difficult to control it, but I have learned how to control it now if I don't want to have a mess. Takes a lot of PC muscle control, but it can be done.

Here's an article that you might also find helpful:

G-Spots and Female Ejaculation 101
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/0,,traceycox_dbmn0pk7,00.html





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Registered: 10-05-2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 12:03pm

Thanks to everyone.