Does professional help (therapy) work?

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Registered: 10-10-2008
Does professional help (therapy) work?
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Fri, 10-10-2008 - 9:22am

Hello everyone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 10:33am

Welcome to the board, alottolearn.

I've not been to therapy, but here are a couple of articles that you might find helpful in seeking out a therapist:

Marriage Therapy: Doing More Harm Than Good?
http://love.ivillage.com/lnsproblems/lnscommitment/0,,7pdrnwdr,00.html

How Do I Find a Good Sex Therapist?
http://yourtotalhealth.ivillage.com/how-do-find-good-sex-therapist.html





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Registered: 12-12-2006
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 11:05am

Of course it can work......IF you have the right therapist (sometimes you have to try a few different ones, because they all have different methods) and if you WANT it to work.

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 12:15pm
It only helps if you want it to. Most people can figure out their own problems. A therapist is there to help draw out the answers that you need. They guide you in a positive way. If you both are open to a therapist then yes it will help. but if you both are not open to finding a solution to your problem a therapist might be your answer.
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Registered: 09-30-2007
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 3:54pm

Best thing my wife and I ever did. We have a great therapist. She helps us with all aspects of our relationship just not sex but she is great in that area too. You may have to try a couple to find the right one for you. I have no problem talking to anyone. It;s my wife that has the hard time so it was more important that she be more comfortable with the therapist. Even after years she still turns red as a beat when we have to talk about " certain subjects". She seems only to be able to talk about sex with the therapist there if I try to talk about it alone she always tries to stop the conversation.


So, I would go to you family Dr to get a recommendation. Call the therapist on the phone. Ask a lot of questions. Try to weed them out before you go a waste an hour. Ours is a woman. 35 years of experience with just couples and a sub speciality in human sexuality. My wife "loved" her in the first 5 minutes. Basically what she says goes!


Hope this helps you


Good Luck


Ciao


IB

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 4:03pm

Welcome to the board, IB.

Thanks for sharing your story with us! It's great to hear when things are working well.





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Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 9:12pm

therapy can work.