signs....

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Registered: 03-31-2005
signs....
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Thu, 03-31-2005 - 3:17pm
hey im jen.. ummm me and my boyfriend broke up about 4 months ago. we dated for a year and a half but had to break it off because the whole long distance thing wasnt working for us... anyway.. since then i have moved on and i am currently dating another guy, who by the way is the best thing that has happened to me in a long time.. he is soo awesome.. BUT over these past 4 months since the break up, i have been seeing all sorts of signs that might mean im suppose to be with my ex.. for example.. i watch the maury show in the mornings when my bored and a guy with the same name of my ex came on.. also on my way to school i pass a construction area and the company doing the construction has his last name.. also.. i always hear our songs playing on the radio and lately i keep running into his mom at the grocery.. i dont know if im being stupid here, but are these signs that we should be together? do you believe in signs??
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Registered: 02-25-2005
In reply to: jen403
Thu, 03-31-2005 - 3:52pm
Yes, you're being stupid. If I saw a guy with the same name on Maury Povich that would be a sign to me that I made a good choice in dumping him and moving on. They air nothing but trouble and sob stories on that show. It may also be a sign you need to do something more constructive with your down time.
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Registered: 04-03-2003
In reply to: jen403
Thu, 03-31-2005 - 8:55pm
Well, as silly as some people think signs are...I do have a tendency to believe that there are signs to point you in the directions you need to go in life sometimes. However, in your case, I think you are actually trying to make certain things into signs to maybe ease your heartache. I'm sure it hurt you a lot to lose someone you had grown so attached to for so long, but you need to think back and re-evaluate the reason you left each other to start with. Did you leave him because you two grew apart or maybe did he leave you, thus kind of explaining why you might be questioning the idea that maybe the wrong one got away. No one said relationships were easy, but don't base your life on a few mere encounters, and from the sounds of them, that's what they are....just fate trying to confuse you more. Give it some time, and if it's meant to be back with this guy, then the right signs will guide you there and you won't have to second guess yourself. Good luck and I hope that this helps a little.
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Registered: 03-17-2005
In reply to: jen403
Thu, 03-31-2005 - 9:46pm

I believe in signs. I don't know for sure if the "signs" you are getting mean that you and your ex are meant to be together. The "signs" could be drawing your attention to him for some other reason. But it still doesn't hurt to take a closer look at them. Some things I would consider, though:


--if your BF's name is a common one, like John, I don't think it would be weird for a guy on Maury Povitch to have the same name. If it's something less common, like Sergio-- well, that's bizarre. ;-)


--same goes for the construction company sign-- if his last name is Smith, big deal. If it Filenzoshula, and the sign you passed said the same thing, that's WEIRD.


--the songs on the radio: if they were nonexistant from the playlist for a long time, maybe even months before you broke up, and now they are coming back on, that's strange too. But I do have to point out-- I've noticed that songs that have lost popularity seem to have their moments again from time to time, like after they pass something around the year mark after their popularity, kwim?


This is interesting, though. It reminds me of the movie Fools Rush In, when Matthew Perry's character is on the street and sees the priest that tells him "there are signs everywhere". I'd go with your gut, but be a little sensible about it. And if things are really going great with your new guy, try not to jeapordize that.


Best wishes,


~Victoria

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Registered: 09-30-2004
In reply to: jen403
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 9:21am

Personally, I do believe in signs that really hit home.

Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?