Mixed Signals

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Registered: 10-25-2004
Mixed Signals
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Thu, 03-31-2005 - 3:50pm
I've been with my DB for nearly a year and a half and we love each other so much. But here's what's bugging me. He wants to take me to Las Vegas for a weekend, though still not ready to meet my mom. He said that meeting the parents would put us in that "super serious" category, that he's not ready for that yet. But taking me away for a weekend is okay with him? To me, that's being super serious because though I had a past (won't go into it), I never spend the night with any guy before, let alone went away with a guy before. On top of that, my mom wouldn't let me go to Vegas unless she meets him (which I understand her point). I'm happy that at least he's meeting my dad, eventhough it's more of a business transaction than a whole "meet the daddy" meeting. I don't know... is he just being confused? Does he really wanna say we're super serious yet he's scare to admit it? Is he has a surprise for me when we're in Vegas? Help! :(
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Registered: 04-30-2003
Thu, 03-31-2005 - 4:16pm

Well, here's my thought. He doesn't think spending the night and going to Vegas has anything to do with being super serious. Whereas, YOU DO. You don't think it's anything that's super serious to meet your folks, but HE DOES.


Neither of you are wrong, you just have different ideas of what makes a r'ship serious.


My thought, if he's not ready to meet your folks, then you shouldn't go to Vegas with him. Also, what "surprise" could he have there for you? Marriage?


May I ask how old you are? I ask only cuz, after 1.5 years, you'd think you'd be serious enough to meet the parents.




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my pet!

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Thu, 03-31-2005 - 4:44pm
I'm about to turn 23 and he's 26! I'm still thinking about this trip, whether to stay or go. I want to very badly but he better make this compromise with me. I mean, it's not like we're getting married tomorrow. (I'm not sure about eloping because we did discussed about marriage). It's just so my mom knows who I'm with. After that, my mom would leave it alone for a while until she sees us being more serious.
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Registered: 04-30-2003
Thu, 03-31-2005 - 5:14pm

If he's willing ot meet your parents, on YOUR terms (not meeting daddy for a business thing, but TRULY meeting them), then I would say go to Vegas.


But if he's not willing, then I would refrain from going to Vegas.


Why be "serious" with him, if he doesn't see your r'ship as "serious" yet. Does that make sense?





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Registered: 09-30-2004
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 9:47am

Well... my personal opinion would be to talk to him and kinda strike a deal.

Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?