do i mean as much to him as he does to m
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do i mean as much to him as he does to m
| Fri, 04-01-2005 - 12:55pm |
my boyfriend is 21 yrs. old and for the 2 yrs. we have been together we go many places together, this summer he wants to go to the Bahamas, he knows that i have always talked about going there with him and i am unable to go but he wants to go anyway. the funny thing is that he wants to go with his family "not friends", i feel hurt that he would go somewhere knowing that i've always wanted to go and he is going without me. he had planned on going to canada ealier to visit his grandfather who is not well, i was kool with that but i'm not kool with him going to the bahamas and having fun without me....i thought the whole purpose of meeting someone u think ur going to spend yur life with at an early age was an advantage b/c u get to do so many thins together abd be there for each other. We ended up having a big fight over this the day b4 it made exactly 2yrs. as a couple. my relative was having a family dinner and we were invited but i was only informed on the same day b/c i was with him the day b4, we had planned to spend the day at my house anyways, so i asked him to go with me and he didnt want to go, i decided to go b/c he had already told me earlier about his trip to the bahamas...he was already at my house and left when i started to get dressed to go with my family to my relative's house .....as soon as he got home he called and told me he didn't want me to go but i had already told everyone i was going so i went.........he was upset but i was too since he was going to the bahamas.....so things weren't going well on our anniversary...... i had got him some cards and wrote that i would take him out when he has an entire day available for me as my gift to him, well i should add i don't hav a constant job and he does, well he got me nothing for our anniversary not even a card i was also the first to say happy anniversary to him (and he says to me he loves me more than i love him).....when i mentioned the anniversary thing he said that i was fighting with him and this is why i didnt get something in celebration of two yrs.....i also know that he is not broke.....the olny thing i can come up with is that it means nothing that we hav been together for 2 yrs.......maybe we are not on the same page b/c i love him to death and i love spending time with him and if it were up to me i would see him everyday but he does not think that its normall for us to see each other everyday......now i know he's not cheating in me......but his family had a big influence in his life and they fight with him when he does not spend enough time with them( his mom, sister and grandma)

Time together does not equal love. It is much deeper then that. The arguments where nothing that would say you have a bad relationship. Actually just cause he goes to the bahamas now does not mean one you two couldn't go. I am sure he will not see everything while there unless he is stay a couple months. The no card for the anniversary, well I would have first thought it was because he did not remember but since he said because you both were arguing just shows his age.
I think you both are in need of a long talk of where you both see this going. Because he seems ok with how things are but you are wanting more. So, get your pen and paper ready and write down what the relationship means to you and where you would like to see it going. Go to him and let him know you are a bit worried about the arguing and if you both are on the same page. Let him know you have thought about the relationship and let him know what you have written and where you feel it should be, then ask him if he feels the same. if he does not answer fine because this is deep. If he has questions or comments address those and when you both finish that let him know you have also thought of where you want to be in this relationship later on so he knows that just because you both may not agree or if you there is thoughts of future terms.