What should I do???

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2003
What should I do???
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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 12:27am

Hi! Can anyone please give me their advice? Please!

This is a dilemma that has been on my mind for the past few months. I met a really sweet guy in December. We did not start going out until the beginning of March because we live in two completely different cities. We have only gone out together twice, but spent the whole day together. Other than this we email almost daily and talk on the phone. I won't see him for another 2 weeks where we plan to meet for his birthday.

The first problem is that I have never told him how I feel about him. Which I am reluctant to do because if he does not feel the same way, things might become awkward. But the second and the biggest problem is that he is relocating to another country (a different continent) in 4-5 months.

My brain is telling me to just forget about telling him how I feel and enjoy his friendship until he leaves, but my heart is saying to me that I have never met anyone I have so much in common with. I don't want to regret not seeing where this could lead.
He says he will miss me when he relocates and he is looking forward to me visiting when he moves.

I was thinking of calling him and telling him how I feel before I see him again. What would you suggest that I do??

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2005
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 9:24am
I think you should go for it, don't hold anything back because you will later regret it. if he doesnt feel the same way, then maybe it wasnt ment to be. but im sure he does.. because why else would he be emailing you and calling you and making time to spend with you on his birthday?? you shouldnt hold back your feelings because if you do, you will always wonder what might have been if you did. you said "my heart is saying to me that I have never met anyone I have so much in common with. I don't want to regret not seeing where this could lead." .. you should always follow your heart.. think about this. i know you will make the right decision.. good luck!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2005
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 3:15pm
go for it. im sure he feels the same way but is scared just like you are. maybe he'll even want to give up the job for one closer to you so he can be with you. really you have nothing to lose but you can gain so much happiness. go for it and good luck
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2003
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 8:32am

Hi,
Thanks to all of you who gave me advice. I told him, but he wants to start over new with a clean state in the country he is moving to. He does have feelings for me as well, but most of his relationships in the past, have been LDRs and he does not want this again.

I just feel like a zombie right now...I just want to cry!