What should I do - HELP!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-07-2005
What should I do - HELP!!
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Sun, 04-03-2005 - 9:34pm

Hi I need help with a guy that I have been seeing on and off for a while now. I recently asked him if he could honestly tell me what he sees in me and What I am to him as I am unsure on where I stand with him and that this has been going on for quite a while now and am unsure on how he feels about me. I also asked him if he was sleeping with other people to. Which after sending him this he told me that he is cranky and that I know when to pester him. Well I just dont know what to do. I like him heaps but just dont know how to take it as he is not answering my qs. I have asked him this before and well he clams up and dosnt respond. Its like he is not sure and does not want to say the wrong thing and loose what is happening. I have not heard from him in 2days and well I just want to know where I stand so that if I have to I will move on. I did text him a msg on the other night after i had a few drinks asking him if I had blown it with him by texting him my thoughts and he said that im F#$*n really close with this message waking me up again. Stop it goodnight. Dont even reply. Well if he would just answer me then I wouldnt have to keep asking right? Do you think I would be best to not msg him and wait to see if I hear from him. Kinda like make him chase me if thats what he wants. As I am sick of putting in the work and not getting much in return.

But do guys chase if they know what its all about. I mean we have been with each other and he knows all there is to know. I mean do you think I have blown this or does he need time to realise what it is he is actually after. I mean how long do I give in a reply or some sort of message to see if he is interested as I dont want to wait forever but I do like him but and becoming quite annoyed with the whole thing.
Please Help

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-03-2003
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 9:54pm
No guy is worth your time when he talks to you the way he did when asking where you stand. His reaction pretty much tells me that he does not care for you the way you do him and you'd do better to let that one go on his merry little way. Communication is the foundation of a good solid relationship and you two don't have it. You'd be better off to cut your losses with this guy and start looking for someone who values you, and not just what you can do for them. I'm sure this isn't what you wanted to hear but trust me, you'd be a stronger person for leaving this no win sitation now. If he realizes what he had, then that would be your call to talk to him, but from the sounds of it, he doesn't know a good thing when he has it. Give yourself some credit and move on to greener pastures.