Why is he giving me the run around?
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Why is he giving me the run around?
| Mon, 04-04-2005 - 10:56am |
So I've been seeing this guy for 3 mons. It started off casual, but now we see each other regularly. Its gotten so that we kind of assume we're going to see each other without having to make any plans. I've gotten introduced to all of his friends, coaches, sister, and mother, so I was feeling like I had him, but one day when I was watching him shoot hoops with friends, our relationship kind of came up. One of the girls there ask him if I was his girlfriend and he quickly replied NO! Ok so I know it wasn't official or anything, but damn, did he have to answer so quick? So sI ask him what was going on between us, and he said you tell me. So I told him I'm not talking to any other guys and I'd like to become exclusive. His response was, "thats what you say right now, but you'll change. I've heard this all before. I really like you, but I'm going to be a man and tell you that I'm scared." I told him I was scared too, but was putting myself out there to see, and he said he doesn't want to talk about, and we should let nature take its course. OK so that's a blow off right? So I stopped seeing him as frequently and hanging with other dudes. So I let him know, and its such a huge problem, because he's "not" talking to any other girls. Ok so I decide to leave these guys alone and once again try to be exclusive. I bring up the topic again, and he says "Your here now. Your here almost every night. You sleep in my bed. What does that mean?" Maybe I'm dumb, but I don't kow. I ask him what it meant, and he says I don't want to say anything, girls don't get it. What? So I'm lost. I should assume he must not be into me right? I know that he wa in an 8 year relationship and hurt badly, but I'm not sure if I'm just around to keep his mind off his ex, or if he's honestly scared? Any advice?

My two cents.
At 3 months, and considering what your r'ship entails, I would at least expect him to be okay with being exclusive...meaning no dating anyone else, no having sex with anyone else. Mostly because, I wouldn't be okay with dating casually for that length of time, and not having that exclusivity.
That being said, I don't like his attitude, nor his answers/reactions one bit. They ring a bit of immaturity, being