wait it out or let it go ?

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Registered: 01-27-2005
wait it out or let it go ?
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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 4:59am

i had an argument with my guy and he hasnt been online since ( for 4 days ) when we said bye he told me " ill talk to you tomorrow" so im a little curious as to where he went. i talked to his brother and he said he d tell him to send me a note when he saw him sun. morning and he never did. my guy friends say to be patient and let him explain himself but i say 4 days of waiting is enough and i have the write to the " this is showing a total lack of respect for me " email i sent. it wasnt nasty but it did let him know i was hurt that he was avoding me. should i wait or move on???

ps - i cant call him, no phones. long story.

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Registered: 06-07-2003
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 9:20am
4 days is a long time. how serious is your realtionship? how often do you normally talk? my ex used to do that to me when we fought..it was horrible. if that's something you can't handle leave now before things get too serious because it tends to become very hurtful. and he may use it as a way to get back at you for whatever reason. if you're already serious, then you need to talk to him about how he handles problems and whether or not he really regards your feelings. i don't think he's very considerate of your feelings at all. if he can't come up with a legimate excuse for ignoring you for so long, it's gonna become a problem in the future so adress it now.
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Registered: 01-27-2005
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 7:06pm
ok its now been 6 DAYS! i thought our relationships was serious, we talk every nite and he tells me loves me everynite. this isnt our 1st argument,,, but we don t fight alot and if we do we make up after 10 mins.this just isnt like him... i know its bad but i checked for him on a site i know he goes to daily and he hasnt signed on since we fought. so at least i know he doesnt just have me on block or anything. i dont jsut wanna wait around for him but if he wants out i want him to tell me with words, not with immature actions. he is having trouble deciding where to go to school and right now we re long distance. he s not the type of person to leave me hanging. im thinking something serious might have happened.
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Registered: 04-30-2003
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 7:53pm

Can you call his folks, or friends? Just to make sure he's alive and well? Also, I don't like this "silent treatment" either. It's childish. ESPECIALLY when you gusy are long distacne. I mean, some time off is good, but jeez, this is bad. 6 days, huh? I'd start calling family to make sure he's alive. That or I'd start seeing how I can catch a flight there.


Hugs and good luck. I cna only wonder how frustrating all that is.




my pet!




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Registered: 09-30-2004
Thu, 04-07-2005 - 3:12pm

At this point, call some of his friends or family that may have frequent contact with him.

Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?

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Registered: 01-27-2005
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:31am
thanx girls. its been good getting some thoughts from ppl other than myself! well i talked to him today, he said he thought i needed a break from him cos i seemed like i was sick of him. he did admit it was the wrong way to go about it and he was sorry and i told him if he pulled that again, i wouldnt be here when he got back and he understands. he knows it was childish but said i hurt him in the argument and basically we were both at fault but for us to put it behind us. his brother contacted me thru msn last nite and we chatted and he did let me know he was ok and confused. so at least i had that. ill give hime 1 more chance! thanx ladies.