finding a lost friend after 8 years,
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| Tue, 04-05-2005 - 1:33pm |
Please help if you can, read this and let me know what you would do
I had a great friend during high school. He was a senior and I was a freshman. what drew us together, I don't know, but we were instant friends. we would go to lunch together and he would take me home from school. after he graduated we remained friends, we talked on the phone and kept spending time together, though we never dated, there was a bond between us. during my junior year he kind of vanished and I didn't think anything of it, he (or so I believed) went off to college. when I graduated I moved across the country and after 3 years returned home. within six months of being home I found out the news that his father had passed away. I was devastated, his father was a teacher at our high school and one of my coaches. for the next year I tried looking for my friend and where his dad was buried. I finally gave up to fate, and figured that I would never find him. five years later at a church college group one of the girls invited a friend to join her their, as I was talking to him, I found that he went to my same high school and his soccer coach was my friend from so many years ago. my stomach turned in knots and my heart fluttered with the feeling that I would get a chance to find him. I wanted more than anything to have a chance to say my good byes to his dad, he had stood up for me when I was in school, and all together was a wonderful man. I started to look around again, and ended up talking with a former teacher. I just asked him if he knew where my friends dad was buried, he said yes and told me the cemetery, and than he gave me a piece of knowledge that I am unsure what do to with, he said to me, "arnt you the girl that was always with Ryan" (my friend) and I said yes, he told me that he works for the county fire department and even the station where he works. I want to go see Ryan, but I don't was to interrupt his life. I did some research at the local library and found no record of him being married, and to me that's a wonderful thing. I always wanted to be with him, and now I feel I have been given another chance to do that. my mom says that I should not bother him, but just about everyone else I talk to says to go for it and not walk, but run to him. what do you think I should do? what would you do?

I would personally most definitely go to see him. What do you have to loose? Nothing really, the worst that can happen is that you guys tottally do not connect. Plus, if you two were good friends a while back, chances are he will be very happy to see you. You'll never know unless you take a chance.
Good luck,
~L.A