Insecurity blah!!!!

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Registered: 03-17-2005
Insecurity blah!!!!
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Wed, 04-06-2005 - 11:56am
I am having a hard time dealing with this issue. In past relationships I have had no issues with jealousy, or insecurity... Now I am in a new relationship and I find myself feeling that way on occasion, I absolutely hate it...and it is all me, he is a great guy, who does nothing to cause me to feel this way, yet I do. has anybody gone through this? any tips on how to work through it?
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Registered: 04-30-2003
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 12:06pm

I guess then, I'd wonder why all of a sudden you're insecure in this r'ship. Is it his actions? What changed about you that you're now insecure? What exactly are you insecure about? What actions of his makes you feel insecure?


I'm not saying it's all you, but I'm curious...why is this different?




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Wed, 04-06-2005 - 12:23pm
I think it is because I truly truly like him.... he moves me. in other relationships it was never an issue, probably because I was not too into them. He honestly does nothing to make me feel this way.
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Wed, 04-06-2005 - 12:34pm

So basically then, this is the first time, in your life, in a relationship that you FEAR he will LEAVE YOU. because you KNOW you'll be crushed, versus, before, where if they left, oh well, next.


I say that, only cuz I feel jealous, insecure when I am fearful of being left by the man I truly love/care about. And yet as we know, we shouldnt' feel that way either.


I think everyone has




my pet!

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Wed, 04-06-2005 - 12:44pm
You know Cher.... I think you hit the nail on the head. for the first time in a relationship, I have let myself become vulnerable, which is great and also scary.
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Registered: 04-30-2003
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 12:59pm
I think so. Scary it is, but it's also wonderful. Think about that for awhile. Analyze your insecurities, if it's more about him leaving you, cheating on you, hurting you in some way, when in fact, you KNOW he would never do anything like that intentionally.



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my pet!

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Registered: 09-30-2004
Thu, 04-07-2005 - 3:18pm

My first instinct is that you like this guy way more than you have liked others in the past??

Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?