he is too okey dokey with things
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he is too okey dokey with things
| Wed, 04-06-2005 - 7:06pm |
Hello, I am new and looking for help. Its' been 9 months since my ex and I split up and I miss him so much, think of him all the time and it makes me nuts knowing he will end up with someone else someday. I have told him what I would liek to do to be together, kind of fix old problems but he never says ok lets do it. he did the other day but I had to ask him if he would talk with me about it. I feel I always have to chase him. I feel he is happy to have a chnace and be with me but then I feel if he doesn't have me its no big deal either. He doesn't show much emotion, like it would just eb part of his life, where I think the one you want to have a life with is a much bigger deal. I feel I am always chasing him, he is too okey dokey with things. Ahould I give it a chance or am I setting myself up for disappointment? I have broken down before to him and he doesn't say much anymore. What do you all think?

I think you're setting yourself up to be hurt. He doesn't have the strength to say "look, I really don't want to get back together." But he's showing you that in his actions.
You're begging him to love you. That's no way to get love or give love. Love has to be a two-way street. You're on a way way street going the wrong direction.
Girl please,
You need to get over it and move on. That man ain't thinking about working anything out. He just waiting for you to fade out of the picture so he can go on about his own beat. Stop clinging and find something fresh!
Then stop chasing... really. I don't mean to sound harsh, but if you're chasing after something that doesn't seem to be real interested in being caught, you really are only setting yourself up for heartbreak.
Back off and just take time for you!
Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?