6 months later he reappears HELP!
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| Thu, 04-07-2005 - 4:04pm |
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Help! LEt me sum up the story as much as possiable. I dated this guy for about a year, we dated then friends dated then friends. Finally he ended it because he has just got out of a divorce and didnt want the comittmate, wanted to be friends, we were best friends. I said no i couldn't handle it i was in love with him. Two months pasted he came crawling back said he messed up he love me and was tired of being affiad. I took him back. Everything was perfect and we moved in together. About 4 months of living together started being distent, said he loved me but he was unhappy depressed and was moving out with his friends. But promised me he wasnt breaking up with me. Well he moved out and changed. Started going out everynight getting drunk, doing drugs and never really broke up with me. I said i had enough throw away his stuff, pictures, and forgot his name. A month later he had a mental break down picked up his stuff and moved half across the country and i heard went to rehab. Its been six months not a word and he texts me the other day telling me it was all his fault, never meant to hurt me, that he was still in love with me. I never in a million years thought this would happen. I happy now but i never got over him i still 6 months later cant date because i compare everyone to him. But fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. Its really hard to know weather to go with your heart or your head on this 1. I'm a strong person and i am not still emotional wreak over him and he still has my heart. WHY? I am 24 and had two long serious relationships and have never cared this much before or still be hung up. What do you think? Also he is a very proud im alway right kind of person what made him break down and be vunerable when he has no clue where im at in life right now. What to do? Thanks for listening

Sometimes the people that tend to runaway from us are the ones that we want the most, not because we love them the most, but because we cant' have them. Think about that. Is that you? do you love him the most because you can't have him?
I would be very wary. If he made all those mistakes, I'd need to know what he has done to fix his life, to put it back in order. If nothing has been fixed, or nothing has really changed, the in my humble opinion, you're just the "fall back woman" he calls up when he FEELS a bit normal. And forgets about when life is too much. It seems that this man has