Im scared

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Im scared
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Mon, 04-11-2005 - 5:45am

I need some advice.

I met my current boyfriend at my best friends wedding, 6 months ago. we both knew it was love straight away for both of us, within 2 weeks we told each other we loved one another and were talking about moving in together. There's one problem I live in London, he's in the RAF 2 and a half hours away. We only see each other at weekends and It's getting to the point where the travelling is getting a bit much and being in a long distance relationship is so hard. I feel like ive stopped my whole life for him cos all i want to do is be with him.

He's being posted to another camp soon, he doesnt know where and at the weekend we had one of those conversations 'where are we going?' He's not sure whats going to happen between us and neither am I to be honest. We both feel 6 months is not a long time and marraige is too soon for both of us.

I feel like im waiting around for him to make the decision once he knows where he gets moved to. I feel a bit of a mug to be honest, we love each other so much but if he has doubts about whether we stay together if he gets moved further away am I just holding on for nothing? I am willing to go where he goes and to me the doubts he has now just confirms to me that im not in his future anymore? He says hes scared of it not working out if we moved in together, but so am i, i have to move my whole life.

Love is blind and I need an outsiders point of view

Thanks
x

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Registered: 04-30-2003
In reply to: becky866
Mon, 04-11-2005 - 1:06pm

You seem to be obsessed with this man and his life. You are willing to give up your entire life, and are even putting it on hold, for him. You are readjusting evertything about YOU, to be with him. Unfortunately, that isn't a healthy love. If it was, you both wouldn't be rushing to move-in, you woudln't be willing to give up your entire




my pet!

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Registered: 09-30-2004
In reply to: becky866
Mon, 04-11-2005 - 3:01pm

"I feel like im waiting around for him to make the decision once he knows where he gets moved to. "


Well, is that all you're waiting for?

Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?