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| Tue, 04-12-2005 - 11:24am |
If you've seen Napoleon Dynamite, you'll understand how my subject line is meant to be read... Anyway, I have potentially gotten myself into a mess. Here is my summarized version:
I began dating a guy about 7 months ago. He was a student teacher, attractive, funny, nice, etc. and I really like him. He finished his student teaching, but has not found a full time teaching position yet and did not have a part time job either. His parents are older and need a lot of help from him and they live 6 hours away, so he has to go there a lot. He lives with his brother, which is not meant to be permanent, so if he cannot find a job, he might have to move down with his parents.
So, our relationship was great on a lot of fronts, but had some issues; mainly the job situation and his family being so far away. I am three years younger than him, work full time, own my own home, so it is important to me to date someone who is equally matched; I don't want someone to be a mother to. He got upset with me claiming that I didn't care about seeing his family (they're 6 hours away, hello? and who would be paying for me to make this trip? I would!). So, I broke up with him last week.
Breaking up wit him was hard because I felt like it wasn't him I didn't like, just his current situation (which, in theory, would all be changing in August when he started teaching full time, if he can find a job). So, we emailed back and forth for a week and ended up on the phone on Sunday. He wanted to come and see me in my new place, so I said he could. He came over. That's where things get a little messy...
Of course once we saw eachother, it was as though nothing had changed from the "good times". I found out that he has a temporary job now and some prospects for a teaching position. So we went for dinner and were talking and everything and it felt great. He told me he loves me (we never exchanged "I love you"s before, which was my decision) and I said it back. Sounds good, right?
Well, the problem is that my family and friends were all pretty happy to hear that we had split up. They thought I was "too good for him" and such and told me I could do better. I'm sure that I could find someone who has a better job or living situation, but I'm not certain I will ever find someone that I really like this much. We have a very strong chemistry, which is something I have never experienced before with the other people I've dated. I don't know what I should do, or if I can live with the reactions from my family and friends. I know, I know, good friends should support you no matter what; that may be true, but they should also look out for what is really best for you, so maybe that is what they are doing? I don't know. Any advice/comments/opinions are welcome. Thanks for reading!

Welcome....and I've seen Napolean Dynamite and very much appreciate the subject line!!
Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?