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| Tue, 04-12-2005 - 4:20pm |
Hi,
Can someone please give me advice.
I recently started talking to a guy, that I ve seen around and we've flirted but we had never talked until 3 weeks ago. He is a manager/security at a dance club that i go to and this past saturday he recognized me and we started to talk and do the usual flirting in a very conspicous manner (as he is working supposedly). At the end of the night, I went over to say goodbye, and he told me...on his own... that he would be away this week and not return till the following week as he is on vacation. I was shocked because he let me know. I havent talked to this guy much, its all been small talk, so the idea of him letting me know of his plans of going on vacation is a bit suprising to me. Regardless I wished him a good trip, and before I walked out of the place,I was at the bar asking for a pen and paper (so that i could give him my number) he approached me and asked me for my hand, and placed a piece of paper in my hand, again conspicuously...without anyone else seeing. He had written his name and phone#. Once again i was suprised and happy all at the same time.
This guy is real good looking, very much respected and has a good mature aura about him and in my perception is a "man" i am sure he is much older then me (i am 24...and i ll guess he is in his 30's).
I ve only dealt with guys my age, so i am wondering, what kind of advise would you give me on this one? when is it good to ask age?? When should i call him?? Do you guys think that I have the upper hand or the advantage on him right now bcuz he gave me his number or does he in reality??
I guess you can say I could be a little intimidated...but nonetheless..I know who I am.
I just would like to know what you think.....Thanks in advance. :)

My cynical two cents...
Guys like that can get anyone he wants. I'd play it cool and not read ANYTHING into anything he does. For all you konw, he's going on vacation with his girlfriend.
<< I ve only dealt with guys my age, so i am wondering, what kind of advise would you give me on this one? >>
You said "I know who I am" ... so, just be yourself.
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When you're actually on a date or just let him bring it up.
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When you have a purpose or reason for calling him. When you think he's going to be back, call a few hours before you're going to the club and just say "hey, are you working tonight?" ... call to let him know that you'll be there ... you could use it as an opportunity to ask him about his vacation and welcome him back ... once you're at the club, if he's working, what he does from there is up to him.
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Why does it matter? Just see what happens. Taking an "upper hand" approach to it is just a desire to be in control of the outcome. Who cares, really? Just see what happens.