Need suggestions

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Registered: 04-12-2005
Need suggestions
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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 5:13pm
I need some help. Long story short. My husband and I have been married for 6 months. Before we met we both have had our own lifes. He has a 7 year old son, who I love to death and he was married. I, have not been married but did date. I was honest with my husband about the number of people that I slept with-8. One which is a rape- so I dont really count that one. He does. He gets soo angry with me and talks about how he cant think about anythign except how his wife has been shared with so many people. He is talking about ending our marriage due to how I "got around". I love him very much and I dont know what else to say or do to make things better. He swears that he has only been with 3 people, his ex, myself and a one night stand. He says that people would consider me a hore due to the number I have slept with. What do I do to save my marriage? Is is saveable?
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Registered: 04-30-2003
In reply to: bush79
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 5:43pm

I would HIGHLY suggest therapy. Otherwise, there's nothing you can do to make him accept your past and forget about it. Unforunately, what can you do? You can beg, plead, try to get him to understand, blah blah blah, but if he chooses to hold it against you, then I'm so sorry, but it looks like you'll be getting a divorce.


I would wonder though, why is he bringing this up now? How long have you known each other? How long were you dating prior to marriage? Did he say this prior to marriage? did you tell him the number prior to marriage? When was the number spoken?


Hugs. Stay strong.




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Registered: 04-12-2005
In reply to: bush79
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 5:49pm
we knew each other for 2 years before getting married. this was bought up in the beginning...one of those any question...I'll answer. this is just not coming up just now...its about every three months. I am thinking of making a counsling appt...telling him the time and date and telling him to be there or we're done. That is sooo hard!
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Registered: 04-30-2003
In reply to: bush79
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 6:08pm
Well, unfortunately then, all I can say is............you put this on yourself. You married a man KNOWING FULL WELL he HATED that you had slept with so many ppl. However, I would make the appt and give him the date/time. It can be salvaged, he just has to be willing.



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