Losing Him
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| Wed, 04-13-2005 - 12:28am |
I have been with a guy (for the 2nd time) for 4 months. We have the best r'ship I've ever had. We connect on every level. More and more lately, we have fights. We've had one of these again , and it was my fault... I was feeling sick and he wanted to (guess what) have sex anyway.... I said not right now so he said, then will you just kiss me a little?
It sounds stupid I know but I rolled my eyes... I felt awful and sick and he's wanting to be kissed.
So he text messaged me and the bottom line is: I don't want to see you any more. You are not the woman I can be happy with.
He went on to spell out WHY he wouldn't be happy with me. A lot of it seems like stuff he expects to exist when (from my point of view) we've only been together a short time, and those things take time to develop. Like trust and depending on each other.
He says it's over, but that he wants to "talk about it" tomorrow morning. I don't see the point in talking about it...... except....... the last time we fought, he said that's it; it's over and I said nope, this is worth fighting for. And I didn't let go. Is he wanting me to take over and fight for it again?????
I know he sounds a bit controllling, but all in all i like him..... i don't know whether to lay it all out and tell him so, or keep my mouth shut?
thanks for your help
zig

I don't know. I'd talk to him, but not tell him "it's not over, this is worht fighting for" because he either likes knowing you'll "beg" for him to stay.
Either way, I wouldn't stay with him, only because of the way he handled things. I mean, to say, "it's over, we need to talk" um, kinda backwards if you ask me.
If he wants to talk about all of this remember that you aren't the only one fighting for this relationship because it sounds that he wants this as bad if not more than you do. Don't lose him if you really feel good about this relationship. Once you find true love if you let it go you will spend the reat of your life looking for that feeling again but you will never find it.
Good luck