help im losing my husband and sex

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Registered: 03-12-2005
help im losing my husband and sex
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Thu, 04-14-2005 - 12:35pm
My husband and I have been married for about a year and a half. I have gainded quite a bit of weight. My husband would rather watch t.v and play his computer games. We fight a little bit. but he isn't interested in sex anymore. He doesn't even want to spend any time with me, he says it's me being overweight and that he is only comfortable doing one position. It's been 4 months and he told me that he doesn't want sex anymore unless it's when he's ready. We keep growing apart, and he is constitantly getting mad at me, even if I do what he says. Please can anyone give a suggestion?
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Registered: 04-30-2003
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 1:03pm

Marriage Counseling, combined with sex therapy.


I have a feeling it's the weight. I say that only cuz when I gained a lot, my xh and I didn't have sex for like 6 months. I also think he was getting it on the side. But the point was, we never had sex. he'd watch tv/play games and I'd be on the internet. We were slowly drifting apart.


It's time for you to END this and start doing something to get him back. Also, HE has to be willing. I'd sit down and have a serious talk with him about your marriage. How if this continues, your marriage will slowly die. He needs to realize that this isn't how it should be and it won't be liek this forever. If he doesn't care, then I'd say run to therapy and drag him with you. If he still isn't willing, then well, I'd go myself and wonder what the heck to do.


It takes two ppl to make a successful marriage, if he's unwilling, then either you have to accept it as he wants it, or walk.


Hugs. BTDT. We were on the road to recovery, however, after finding out about the OW, I left him. I honestly don't think our marriage would've survived anyways, because, he didnt' feel he had to change anything. He felt it was me that needed to change. And trust me, what he wanted, wasn't going to happen. So, I think our marriage was over already. He had quit WAY before I tried to step in. I hope its' not the same for you.




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