when do i tell him

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Registered: 04-14-2005
when do i tell him
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Thu, 04-14-2005 - 12:54pm
I have been dating this guy for 4 months. he is moving in with me and my children and him get along great.there's just one problem.when do i tell him i love him? i don't want to send him running. i don't think that he feels the same way.(at least not yet)he was talking with me and a friend the other day and he said"sugar pie honey bunch" and then said i can't say the rest. does this mean that he does not love me and does that mean i should wait? OH and i guess i should also let you in on the fact that i am separated from my husband of 9 years. and we have only been separated for about 10 months.And yes he knows that i am still married. anyway. when do i tell him i love him.please help
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Registered: 04-30-2003
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 1:20pm

I'm sorry but this is going to be harsh.


The fact that you're not ABLE to say ILY, the fact that HE can't either, AND the fact that you've known him for FOUR months AND that you are going to move in with him AND you have kids are all yelling yelling YELLING at me to tell you to STOP AND SLOW DOWN!!!!!!!!


YOu have been separated for 10 months, which means you were separated for 6 before officially being with your guy. That is NOT enough time to deal with the divorce and/or get over it. You're movig from one marriage to another. What's the rush? Why are you putting your children thru this? I mean, they barely know the man and you're moving him in, RIGHT AFTER moving daddy out.


I'm sorry, but I have no real advice for you, mostly because I can't even support any of what you're doing.


BTW, I think you're doing this entire r'ship backwards. You should've been dating this man a lot longer, saying Ilove you, ending your marriage, becoming officially divorced, making sure your kids are at a good place with all of this and DURING all this........and THEN MAYBE MAYBE moving in with him. Not the other way around.


Hugs. I hope you get some advice, cuz well, mine is SLOW THE HECK DOWN.




my pet!




my pet!

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Registered: 04-14-2005
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 1:21pm
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Registered: 04-14-2005
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 2:26pm
You ever heard of Laura Schlesinger, she has a very good book
you must read....10 stupid things women do to mess up
their lives....
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Registered: 10-06-2004
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 4:13pm
Sorry Sweetie - I'M IN TOTAL AGREEMENT WITH CHER. Please slow your roll.