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| Thu, 04-14-2005 - 7:53pm |
before I start, I know I have offered some of you advice, but I am really bad at taking my own, so other opinions is what I am looking for
Ok, I am going to really try to make a long story short. I was married when I was 24 to "J". A few months after we got married, he said he wasn't happy, and wanted to get divorced. Well, we, or should I say "I" tried to make it work, but he wasn't working at it, after a few months, he started cheating on me. It was over for a long time when we finally got divorced. Well, my ex issue is not with him. It is with my boyfriend who I started dating just before my divorce was final. My issue is, is that I really really miss him and want to get back together, but am not sure how to go about doing it. We have been broken up for 4 months. In that time, we have mostly done our own things, but have remained friends. We still talk on the phone a few times a week and spend the night together occasionally (sometimes we have sex, sometimes we just cuddle). The reason we broke up is that he felt like I didn't have time to get over my marriage. When we broke up we called it "a break". He wanted me to be able to get back to who I was, he didn't want to break up but felt like it was what we needed. At the time, I was more hurt and couldn't really understand where he was coming from, but now, I definitly think it was the right thing. We really did need it. But now, I feel like we have been broken up long enough and want to try again. The last time we talked about "us" he said he still has feelings for me, and I definitly still have feelings for him, but I don't want to bring up "the talk" -- we had it so many times in the first few weeks after we broke up that we talked it to death, and now I don't really know how to go about bringing it up. We spent a lot of time together last week, he was helping me move some stuff for my grandparents, and we spent the night together; we had so much fun, it was like it used to be, and we actaully spent some time together the next day too.
But there is another "twist" I guess. I met another guy about 2 months ago. We have kissed a few times and I like him, but spending time with him just makes my feelings for my "ex" stronger. I am not really confused about what to do, because I know what I want; I think I am just venting to get some opinions. Oh and FYI my ex did find out about the new guy--totally got jealous and tried to play it off, but I know him too well.
Any advice is welcomed. :)
thanks.

What should you do?
Find the courage to go talk to your ex about wanting another chance, now that some more time has passed and talk to him.
What more is there to do? Just do it.