Does he want to spend his life with me?
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Does he want to spend his life with me?
| Mon, 04-18-2005 - 9:50pm |
I have been dating my B.F for 9mths. He has a 6yr old daughter that he is raising alone (I am 26yrs and he is 33yrs). He told me that he has difficulty balancing his extreme work schedule with the child, his personal life and his relationship with me. He told me that his child mother took him to court to counter his custody of the child on grounds of his hectic schedule. He said he acknowleges my patient nature and he feels bad that for the past 3mths he has not been able to spend much time with me. He says he has been debating this issue for awhile and given the nature of his work schedule he thinks it is better for him date someone willing to be a stay at home mom inorder to make the balance. He said he doesn't not want to impose anything on me ( I have a Bsc.finance). I really love him. In the past he has asked me twice how many kids I would want and whether I would want to settle down and I was evasive. At one point I almost ended the relationship because of his schedule and he told me we could compromise and he said I should not throw in the towel.

let him hire a nanny
if you want to be a stay at home mom your going to have to marry him
don't quit your life unless you think you want to marry him
don't move in until you are married
don't let him use you as a new mommy
Ugh...tough one!
Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?
---He has a nanny but he says he needs someone by his side and he is willing to help me get into a business of my interest.---
Huh. Well, THAT's an unexpected turn of events. So, is this going to be a business relationship or what? Quite frankly, I'm admiring this guy for being willing to put the cards on the table so you can make a decision. Seems to me he's respecting your position.
Then, again, I could be totally wrong, and he could be a lying, manipulative, cheating, maniac wolf who's just lying in wait for Goldilocks----only you know for sure.
:-)