keeps me @ arms length, but nothing!

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Registered: 04-19-2005
keeps me @ arms length, but nothing!
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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 1:28am

Hey! I have a confusing, hair pulling, sitution on my hands and it just won't leave. Meaning I won't let it leave. I met a guy about 3 years ago and immediatly fell head over feet in love with him. We dated, ended up getting pregnant and now we have a baby girl together. During all that we splited and he has had other girls but I havent even moved on. But it always seems that when he is single he keeps coming to me and hanging around, and acting like he wants to start things back up again, which I would love, but it never seems to go anywhere. He says and does things that keeps me at arms length and thinking, well maybe he does love me,like he misses me, he looks at me like I never have been looked at by anyone before. I know something is there, I feel it, but does he feel the same? Or am i being fooled?

Thanks kit

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Registered: 09-30-2004
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 10:56am

Hi there and welcome...and in a nutshell, I would say that it's time for you to put yourself a little further away than arms' length.

Steffy
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 11:09am
I agree with Steff, though you have to deal with him for the child sake does not mean you have to be with him romantically. Step away from it and stand strong as hard is may be. But, as long as you continue to be available he will never have to choose to either have feelings for you and stick around or not. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
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Registered: 03-10-2005
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 1:55pm
I'm really sorry but I know of no other way to say this...I'm too much of a tell-it-like-it-is kind of person ( I can take it as well as dish it out, by the way). It sounds like he's trying to keep you around in case nothing better comes along. You sound like you're a terrific person and you're probably better than he deserves. Please go on with your life. Keep a cordial relationship with this person b/c he is your child's father but continue on your merry way. You deserve no less than to be with someone who is all too willing to pull you in instead of keep you away. Believe me, there are plenty out there only too willing to have someone to love and be loved in return. Don't settle for less. You owe it to yourself and your DD to do so. Good luck to you. Becky