Part 2 of : Dating my boss!!!

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Registered: 03-13-2005
Part 2 of : Dating my boss!!!
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Wed, 04-20-2005 - 10:15am

: Dating my boss!!!

Thank you for all the advise I received. I can't believe I'm even posting again! I continue seeing him, even after the whole I'm married and have kids things. Believe I went with the whole intention of breaking it off. I txt him during work told him I needed to speak to him. Told him how I didn't know, how I would have expected to tell me that on the first date. He thought I knew cause of conversations he had in front of me(never happened, we hardly see then!)I spent half of the time wrestling with my feelings convincing myself it was k he's been separated for 6 months, we talked,I ask question regarding his marriage situation, he told me he wasn't getting back to his wife, I divorce wasn't in his mind at the moment, but in the future yes, at the moment he's doing the best for his children. He ask me if I was sure I wanted to continue seeing him, he wanted me to be happy, it was a nice sincere talk, he explain the situation.
And I accepted it!

We continue seeing each other, that is until I told him one more of my co-oworkers knew, he wasn't too please but I reasurred him she wouldn't say anything. He was fine but told me if it were to come out, to agree to say we've been only on a few dates. And that perhaps it was better to cool off for a while. Once again he told me, how much he like me.
That was before easter, that weekend was hell cause I heard no one word from him. Let's say that on the 1st day back to work he txt saying sorry but he had dropped his phone and he only just about got it working I believe him, he said that to my supervisor as well. He was acting normal towards me, txting me, saying he miss me.
Well that all stop at the end of the week! Monday came I thought, he might txt me, nope he even had plenty of oportunities to talk to me as I was alone and the 3 co-oworkers that knew had the days off, all I got was a lousy hi and that was because I walked past him. It was like he was half scare and half not knowing how to act.

The next day I handed him my resignation, akward moment went to his office which is on the upstairs floor, as soon as I gave it to him, he made me go downstair so we could talk. He ask me if I had a new job, I had told him I was going to start looking. Obviously not! He gave me this whole thing about how he wasn't ignoring me, something about circumstances with everything nearly coming out! He said I'll txt you so we can get together and talk. I couldn't wait, so 2 days later I txt him asking him if I had done anything wrong and that we really needed to talk. He reply no I hadn't done anything wrong and that we talk tomorrow. He cancelled that as he wasn't driving home alone(by that he means giving owner of the co a lift) and he was away the weekend, he reschedule for mon.
Another lousy hi at work on mon, plus no talk no txt no anything.
I was going crazy by then I had my 2 friends at work, talking to me trying to cheer me up. Tuesday ,I took the day off, got doctors note to get off work, I couldn't handle it anymore! Wednesday, had a talk to with my supervisor said to him, that this was going to be my last day. I was crying a lil bit, he knew I was dating him, I just said to him I'm leaving cause of him.
My last day wasn't bad, until my friends got a card and the tradicional thing is to get everyone to sign it. He signed it, of course, I was a bit mad at my friend for going upstairs to get all the bosses to sign it. Apparently he didn't know I was leaving today. All in all I wrote him a letter, which I wasn't going to hand, but in the end I change my mind.
Told him how he hurt me, not a nasty letter not a love dovey letter it was straight to the point, just telling him how he hadn't treated me with respect. And said my goodbyes. I hadn't notice that he had send me a txt just before I handed him the letter. He said I didn't know you were leaving today! Could he talk to me next week. I ended up calling him as soon as I got home. We talk, not much, he took notice that he hurt me and he even said to me you could come back, he also said to me we should be having this conversation on the phone. He said I'll contact you next week. He had this marathon on the weekend. I heard from him yesterday, he txt me asking me how I was, I said to him bored missing work, and I ask him how he was. He could hardly walk and ask me if I had found a job yet! I reply to him congratulating him on completing the marathon and no I hadn't
found a job, yet. Me being me had to apologise for the letter that I gave him.
He txt back saying I have nothing to apologise for, That I was a sweet girl and he would never want to hurt me on purpose! He knew that he hurt me and he was sorry, and that he would call me thursday(tomorrow)I'm seriously dreading that phone call!!! What could he posibly say to me, don't want to see you anymore. Can't he say it to my face, like all break ups I want answers. Job front is not looking bleak I haven't started looking but my supervisor has offered me something to work in the meanwhile nothing permanent, freelance, he's setting up his own company.

All in all I'm just want to get this over and done with!! I'm afraid because I did little by little develop feelings for this man.

Thanks for listening,

Manabi

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Registered: 09-30-2004
Wed, 04-20-2005 - 2:19pm

That has got major disaster written all over it and you are going to be the one with mud all over your face and your life.


Please cease and desist ~ don't call him, don't text him, don't associate with him at all unless work ABSOLUTELY REQUIRES it.

Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 04-20-2005 - 2:28pm
It's not dating. It's an affair. He's married.