is it worth it?

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Registered: 03-31-2005
is it worth it?
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Sat, 04-23-2005 - 1:42pm

I'm new here and wanted to post for a little advise. I've been seeing this guy for almost 3 months. I am really into him and most of the time I think he feels the same way. I have a tendency to overreact or read more into things than what they actually are, this is where I need your help with my present dilema. Early last night we talked on the phone, he usually will call me before he turns in for the night. The call didn't come last night. He did call me this morning at work. The conversation was fine until he started telling me about his night. He went to a friends house for a hot tub party (didn't really provide any details) and said he stayed in the hot tub until 4 am. He crashed on his friends couch for the night. I was feeling myself get upset by the conversation so I told him quickly that I had to go and hung up. After thinking about it for about an hour I decided maybe I was overreacting and tried to call him back. He didn't answer. I called again about an hour later and made up some bs excuse why I had to go on his voicemail. This was about an hour ago. I still haven't heard from him.

I guess what I need advice on is whether or not I am overreacting to the whole hot tub thing or should I have just not called back because he's not trustworthy.

FYI the relationship has not been officially defined. However, we have discussed the fact that we're not seeing anyon else. I feel like I am falling for this guy and would really not like to end up hurt.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jess45342
Sat, 04-23-2005 - 3:54pm

Yes, I think you're most likley overreacting...but let me ask you, has he been honest and trustworthy so far in your r'ship (i.e., his words and actions have matched up consistently)? If so, why would you doubt his word?

If he has not been honest with you, then I could see reacting the way you did. But then, why are you with him?

Or do you just feel it's inappropriate for a man who's dating someone to go to a hot tub party, period? That seems a little extreme to me.

Sheri

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Registered: 09-30-2004
In reply to: jess45342
Sat, 04-23-2005 - 5:18pm

Well, in my opinion...without your relationship being defined, I think you are overreacting.

Steffy
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Registered: 10-06-2004
In reply to: jess45342
Sat, 04-23-2005 - 6:25pm
Hello and I agree with the other posters. Ya'll's r/s is fairly new. IMHO, please slow down your emotions. All I'm trying to say is that being too eager and/or desparate(sp?) pushes most people away. Good luck to you and take care!

 

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Registered: 03-31-2005
In reply to: jess45342
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 12:17pm
Thank you all for your response. I was seriously overreacting. Thankfully we have talked about it now and all is well. He understands that I can sometimes be neurotic. He is a great guy and I feel like a spoiled brat. Next time I will definitely handle the situation with a little more tact. Again thank you for your responses.