Broke up but still in love!

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Registered: 03-29-2005
Broke up but still in love!
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Sat, 04-23-2005 - 7:43pm

Hi board:

My b/f broke up with me 2 weeks ago. We had a very nice, happy relationship and everything was going great. The only problem was that he was a little too jealous. He would get jealous when i would talk to my guy friends and everytime i would go out he would have the fear that i would cheat on him. He had an experience with his last girlfriend. ( she cheated on him) . Well when he broke up with me he told me that he was falling for me way too much and that he knows that in about 3 months when i go to college im gonna be surrounded by many guys and that there is a chance that i would leave him. He told me that he was letting me go NOW because later on when he falls in love with me MORE was gonna be more hard to let go. Then he told me that he just didnt want to fall for me more. That he just wanted to be my friend. I told him that i couldnt be his friend!!!! He told me that he didnt want to lose me, but i just couldnt tell him that i could be his friend. :-(

2 weeks have passed and we have had no contact at all. I see him EVERYDAY at school and i just ignore him. ( he doesnt try to talk to me though).

I dont know what to do. I love him so much and i just hate it that I cant talk to him! Now im realizing that i rather be at least his friend than not have him at all! The thing is that i dont know how to tell him. We dont talk anymore and i would feel wierd calling him if in the first place i was the one to tell him that i didnt want his friendship. Then if i call him i dont want it to look like if im begging him or something. What can i do??

Please help.

thanks

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Registered: 03-29-2005
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 1:27pm
anyone have any opinions?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-01-2005
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 1:50pm
you have to be the first one to contact because you said you didn't want to be friends
take it from there
just don't act needy
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Registered: 04-30-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 2:08pm

My two cents,


If you can't bear the thought of him seeing another woman, kissing another woman, holding her, loving her, then you are NOT ready to be his friend.


When you are able to do those things, only THEN can you be a true friend.


Otherwise, you're just being his friend IN HOPES that he'll remember how wonderful it was and get back together with you. Which, can happen, but most times, doesn't, and you, the "friend" gets even more hurt, the day he wants to introduce you to his new gf that he can't live w/o.


Be real with your expectations, your REAL reasons as to




my pet!

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 3:03pm
I think he's a coward. He needs to realize that his insecurities are going to affect all of his relationships until he addresses it. He can't keep walking away!
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Registered: 09-30-2004
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 4:24pm

Well, I tend to lean toward the opinion that it just isn't meant to be YET!

Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?

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Registered: 03-29-2005
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 6:30pm
Thank you!