Interesting Movie Choice

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Registered: 12-08-2004
Interesting Movie Choice
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Sat, 04-23-2005 - 10:17pm

This guy and I have been friends for almost a year. There is definately a chemistry between us. I have feelings for him, but I am happy just having him around so I am cool with being friends (or I try to be). We spend a lot of time together and his favorite thing to do it watch movies over at my place. Last week, he brought over "When Harry Met Sally". Not typically a movie he would be into. We ended up not watching it, but I find his choice interesting. I have been told about many things he has done to try to tell me that he wants more than friendship, but I am a person who outright needs to be told. I never just want to assume. Would most guys bring that movie to make a point to a girl?

Kris

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Registered: 10-21-2004
Sun, 04-24-2005 - 5:22pm

Did he seem to enjoy the movie? Does he typically bring over movies that are more guy-ish? Perhaps he just thought it would nice to bring over a chick flick, something he thought you'd enjoy more than what he wants to watch.

I wouldn't read too much into the movie choice as being a statement of wanting to be more than friends (just because Harry & Sally became more than friends!) The old adage still stands: if he wanted to date you, he'd be dating you. He'd ask you out.

Unless he doesn't think that's what you want, he might fear being rejected.

So, if you want to be more than friends and date him, how about asking him out?! :)

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Registered: 12-08-2004
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 9:40pm

This is definately not his kind of movie. He usually makes fun of this kind of stuff, lol. We have talked at length about his fear of rejection. I'm just as wimpy as he is when it comes to this kind of stuff. I have NEVER been one to make the first move.

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Registered: 07-29-2004
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 5:16am
you should tell him that you're really really sad now that you didn't get to see when harry met sally, and he should definitely bring it again next time. if he was planning to use it as an icebreaker, that should give him the greenlight... if he wasn't, he'll just think you're a sucker for chick flicks.
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Registered: 03-07-2005
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 1:05pm
i wouldnt directly ask him out, sometimes guys get weird when then only think of you as fiends, it may cause a grift between you two, what if he just wants to be friends, in a joking way i would say something like did you ever think you and i could end up like that? or did you ever have a friend that you fell for before ?
and if hes says yes than tell him how you feel if he asks why tell him about 2 friends of yours etc. if hes says no you can still be his friend
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 2:04pm

Hi Sunshine!


Not to sound like a wimp....but Pianoguy occasionally gets a "tear or two in his eyes" at the conclusion of WHEN HARRY MET SALLY.

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Registered: 09-30-2004
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 2:15pm

Well, Kris...that isn't a sign that I would read TOO much into ~ other than even if he's not into that kind of movie, he was trying to take your choice into consideration.


I'd say if both of you are a little wimpy about making the first move...you'll always have a good friend.

Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?