He has some doubts...
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| Sat, 04-23-2005 - 11:18pm |
Well, I have posted some messages before and received great advice.. so here I'm again.
Background: BF and me are both 27 yrs old and have been dating for almost 3 yrs. For the past 3 mths, we have been are ups and downs... we even took a minor break for a few weeks. But lately, I felt things were getting better. We were communicating better, and just taking it day by day.
Well, last night... he dumped me. :( He says he is doing this for our relationship. That lately he has been thinking about the future (marriage.. getting engaged, ending bachelorhood), and wants to be 100% sure that I'm "the one." He says he loves me very much, and can't imagine out on a date with another girl... but also says that when he goes out with his friends he wonders about other girls. I'm very confused about this! I asked him if he was seeing someone or if this was influenced by someone, and he looked me straight in the eyes and said no. For me, I know he's the one for me, and I have told him this before. He says that this has nothing to do with something that I did.. it's about him and what he wants.
So what's going on here.. does he need just a few months to try to figure things out? Will he come back to me or is this just a nice way of saying "see ya later?"
He says he wants to still be friends, but I'm thinking that this might not be a good idea. Should I still talk to him while doing this "soul searching" or do I just cut him off and make him miss me? I'm thinking about just cutting him off all communications.
Any advice would be wonderful..
Thanks.

Hello Sweetie! My two pennies from reading your post - he is ready to move on and doesn't want to hurt you any more than necessary. Please listen carefully to what a man says to you, yes I agree he's giving you mixed signals, but look at his actions. That should tell you all you need to know. I know this hurts like all hell, but your feelings are way much invested than his and trust me he knows this - that's why he is trying to let you down easy. Take care and good luck to you. Please stay in touch with us and let us know how things turn out.
P.S. - being friends can happen after break-ups, but IMHO you have too much emotions for him to even try at this stage, please give it some time. Hope I'm makin sense.