Mokrie (and others)....I'm curious

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Mokrie (and others)....I'm curious
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 2:41pm

Why is it most of your replies to people are that "he wants sex" or "he's sleeping around" or always assuming the guy is in it only for sex?


There are MANY men who are NOT in it for the sex, and to make that blatant assumption to every woman who posts, seems well, harsh.


So, I'm curious, why do you assume the worst of every man? Personal experience?






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my pet!

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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 4:21pm

I agree!

Coolas

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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 6:21pm

cherbear...


On behalf of the rest of the males who genuinely respect the female sex.....and AREN'T JUST OUT TO "GET SOME"....I sincerely thank you for this post.


Pianoguy


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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 11:59pm
Of course there are caring and loving men out there! There are also alot of dogs that just want to score and will say anything to get another notch on their belt. Sadly, too many women offer them selves up too easily these days to a man that says nice things thinking he's one of the caring and kind men. A true good guy would not play head games and would be able to seriously relate with a girl. The result would be growning closeness between them and not drive them to stressed out posts asking strangers for insite. I truely believe that lots of posters here have not found good guys. I believe they are tangled up with players and users that make them feel confused and insecure. I truely believe grandma's old saying "why buy the cow when you get the milk for free" is as true today as it was 100 years ago. Good guys are looking for good girls they can introduce to their mother while tv and movies tell women to "go for it with the UPS guy." If all guys were honest and straight with women they'd never need to vent or ask anyone else for advice. They'd have the best support system in the world, their mate.
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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 11:54am

Hi Mokrie, I am not trying to be mean when I say this but... What world do you live in. I have never heard of any kind of relationship wether it be romantics, between parent and child , between freinds etc. to be "Perfect" if that was the case then we would all look like programmed robots.

I disagree with you, not all these women on here are with players etc. But alot of women that get involed with men that just keep giving them a run for their money and playing mind games with them I think those women fail to notice the "Red Flags" and they just push them aside thinking "Oh he will change, or I can make him love me" I don't blame that on anyone or point fingers to anyone like oh she's dumb can't she see that he is using her. You know why? Because we are human, no one is perfect. And that's how we make it through life and experiences and issues that we go through help us grow to develop who we are. And it takes some people longer than others to learn by their mistakes, but that doesn't mean they are dumb.

Everyone is diffrent and that is what makes the human population, if we were all the same then this world would be BORING. Do you understand what I am saying. To me it seems like you have anger towards men. I mean I could be wrong, but why are you so hostile? Not all men are dogs and sometimes the dogs do grow up if they can find the right woman to put them in their place, and some don't. Honey it's life.

-Michelle

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 3:33pm
Your right, I am hostile toward men AND women that play mind games and hurt others. I believe they are selfish and maybe even sociopathic. They don't seem to care that they are hurting another human being and think only of their own gratification and comfort. I see that my style of "tell it like it is" in as few words as possible are outdated in this touchy feely world of political correctness. My intent in answering posts is help but it is seen as harm. This will be my last post. People like me have gone the way of the dinasaur. My views are popular in senior citizen homes where they are shared by a dying breed. Each generation brings such changes in standards and beliefs that it can be difficult to communicate. I have enjoyed my time on here and I thank you all for tolerating my outdated diatribes. I wish everyone happiness and meaningful relationships.
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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 8:35pm

Interesting. I'll have to comment more on this thread tomorrow.


I have vented to this board regarding my r'ship. NEITHER one of us is playing head games, nor is dbf using me for sex, nor using me at all.


Amazingly, he's a sweet man, who's probably slept with less women, than most women have slept with men on this board (no offense to anyone, just making an observation). He's not some player, or user. In fact, he's been the one used and played.


Yet, we have issues. Why? Mostly its because we have two VERY distinct and opposite personalities. So we don't just "relate" yet, we complement.


So, am I playing him? Is he playing me? Am I using him for sex? Is he using me for sex? And if the milk is free, damn he must be starving, cuz it's not like we have a lot of sex. I'd wonder what you'd say about my r'ship.






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my pet!

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 11:40pm

The great thing about a true message board is someone will always come looking for advice, and there will always be someone ready to respond. We are all entitled to our opinions. Some posters question the way others think and post appropriately. Others are very firm in an opinion on a subject and post appropriately. Others seem to be looking for a fight and post appropriately. Others don't have much of an opinion and readily admit it but offer support and post appropriately. What a great mix! When we disagree, however, we have to respect the other person's right to speak--that is the rock upon which our country was founded.

The system generally works great. When someone feels they're being attacked here, though, I'd say we've got a problem that needs to be addressed. The written word is sacrosanct--it remains. Some of us write very briefly, some much more. Let us consider the recipient, not the subject, before we hit the 'post' button, could we?