8 years...Is it meant to be?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
8 years...Is it meant to be?
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Fri, 04-29-2005 - 1:48pm
I have known this guy for 8 years now. We met when I was 17 and we hit it off right away. We "went out" for a couple months and broke up. We were on again off again for the next 4 years and we both became distracted by other interests. Mine last three years and his about the same. We started talking again December 2003 and basically dating. In April 2004 I found out that I was not the only person he was seeing. We were not monogomous so I wasn't really surprised. We often had the "we don't know what it is but something keeps bringing us together" talk but that's about it. Things were going about the same (he stopped seeing the other girl...or she stopped seeing him). Anyway, shortly after that I started dating someone (through the summer) and we broke up in September. Well my 8 year guy went back to school in the fall so he wasn't around much but we always keep in touch and see eachother. On New Year's I met this other guy that I really liked and 8 year guy found out about it in February. He was not too happy. We had many drunk discussions...he knows he wants to be with me but he doesn't know if he wants to marry me, he doesn't want me with anyone else, he wants to be connected to me, etc... Well I went on with my merry life and this new interest. In the mean time 8 year guy and myself have been getting along really well. Here's where it gets interesting...last weekend was my birthday and 8 year guy ended up spending the night with me. I find out a couple days later that he has a "good friend" back at school and that made me angry because he never said anything about anyone else but he always has to know about my men. So...he is coming home on Saturday and we are going to talk. So if anyone has experience with this I would like to know what you think I should ask him or I should just let him talk or what should be resolved by the end of the conversation? I am still interested in my New Year's guy but he went back to school in January and we haven't really got to continue anything...but there is something there. I'm just confused...please help. Any advice is appreciated! Sorry so long!




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Registered: 09-30-2004
Fri, 04-29-2005 - 2:12pm

I personally don't have experience with that...except maybe an FWB situation that lasted a long time, but not a relationship.

Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?