Dating someone with kids...

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Dating someone with kids...
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Tue, 05-03-2005 - 10:53am


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Marie

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Registered: 04-17-2000
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 10:56am

What is the biggest problem of dating someone with kids?

1.Lack of spontaneity

2.Drama with the ex

Marie

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Registered: 04-28-2005
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 12:50pm

1.Lack of spontaneity <<< of course, as long as the kids are home, spontaneity is out the window.....that is to be expected.

2.Drama with the ex<<< No exes on either side (my kids' dad is deceased, SO has no kids)

3.Lack of respect from the kids<<< My 15yo son displays the utmost respect for SO, much to my surprise. SO respects 15yo son also, which is why it probably works that way..

4.Understanding that your relationship comes second<<< They are two separate types of relationships and are not in competition with each other, since SO does not want to be my child and children do not want to be my SO...which one comes "first" ( I don't see where it has to be an either/or thing) hinges upon the particular circumstance at the time, and the issue involved.

5.Other (pls explain)<<< Initially, since SO is 10yrs. my junior, the fact that he will never have biological children was an issue for ME. I was finally convinced that it is not an issue with him nor will it ever be.

Good questions...Becky

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Registered: 04-30-2003
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 12:51pm

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What is the biggest problem of dating someone with kids?

1.Lack of spontaneity

2.Drama with the ex




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