very confused

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Registered: 04-07-2005
very confused
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Wed, 05-04-2005 - 2:47pm

Hi all! I have known this guy since January. We have a class together and see each other every week during class. He finally asked me out for drinks and dinner at the end of march. After that he would call me once a week but we didn't go out again.

I had asked him if he wanted to go to my friends play with me May 1st. He seemed very excited about it. I gave him about 2 weeks notice. He was very glad for that cause he is very busy. He is always on the go. He told me one day he hopes to get a house and settle down a little bit.

We went to the play and he really enjoyed it. The entire time he was very affectionate to me. My friend from the play said we looked good together and it looked like we were official since he was all over me.

I told her i had no idea. This was the third time we had been out together. When we are alone together he is very affectionate toward me but when we are at school, he talks to me like i am just a friend he talks to occasionally. You can see why i am confused. I completely understand he doesn't want anyone from the school in his business especially since he has been going to the art studio at school for about 6 years now. Plus he has ex's that he is still friends with there too

I really like this guy. I see him almost every week. I really like him. School will be ending in about 2-3 weeks. I have a bad feeling that i won't see him after that. I don't know if i should just walk away or wait to see what will happen next. I really hope things will work out but I also don't want to get caught up with someone who will hardly ever be around. Please help!!!!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2003
In reply to: micha002
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 3:05pm
From what you are saying it sounds like this guy is extremely laid back about the whole thing. Is it in his personality to just date people from school. Personally I think that artists are just very laid back. They are into themselves and work. If you don't make initiatives...do you think he will. I would say try that so you can see where you stand. See if when you leave the ball in his court whether he bounces back. Good luck!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-29-2005
In reply to: micha002
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 3:10pm
If there's only 2-3 weeks of school left I don't think you really have any options besides playing it cool. If you've got finals, etc. you probably won't have time to get too wrapped up in him and then summer will be here. You'll have to see where everyone is during the summer and then play it by ear. If you're in different places the question is moot, you know?
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2004
In reply to: micha002
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 4:30pm

I'm not sure I see the real argument to walk away yet.

Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?