Sex, the root of all evil????

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sex, the root of all evil????
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Thu, 05-05-2005 - 9:13am
Ok, I know not that funny of a matter but how long is a gauge for a guy to be wanting to sleep with you? Are women jilted by losers that they are so use to a guy wanting sex so early on they lose out on good guys because he wants to wait? If a guy was virgin would you stick around, what if he never mentioned it but never tried anything either? I ask because I know a guy who is 25 and a virgin and he does fine but many women pass him over because he is not trying to get into their pants but likes to talk. SO what do you all think of this I know you have something to say on this issue?
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Registered: 09-30-2004
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 9:53am

Good question...I meet very few virgins.

Steffy
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Thu, 05-05-2005 - 2:19pm

Okay, I'm going to be brutally honest. If when I was 25 I ran across a guy who was around 25, I would have thought, "Okay, is he a troll, completely socially inept, or religious?"

Any of which would have put him out of the running for me, because I'm not very religious and he would probably think I was INCREDIBLY immoral and a MAJOR slut. I think the other two are pretty self-evident.

The harsh reality is that most guys in the US have had sex many times over before 25. That doesn't mean there aren't plenty of nice guys out there that women might be selling short. But I can understand why they do. I don't want to have to train someone and I definitely don't want to spend time with someone who thinks they're better then me.

If he wants to meet women who will understand, his best bet is joining church groups or trying eHaromony, almost all the guys I ran across on there were MUCH more religious then I was. Also, Lavalife has a section exclusively for people seeking realtionships, there may be a higher percentage of women there who would find his viriginty an appealing trait rather then an unappealing one.

If none of the above three things apply to him, then I would have to ask why is he so put off by having sex. If that's the case there might be a bigger issue.

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Registered: 05-04-2005
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 2:52pm

My bf is the closest thing I've had to a virgin since I was a virgin. lol. And all I can say is that it TOTALLY SUCKED!!!!


So, if a man told me he was a virgin, in his 20's, I probably wouldn't want to date him, mostly cuz I wouldn't want to train him. Also, assuming he was fine with MY b/g more than willing to learn, but a natural, okay, I'd go for it.


But seriously, I just don't want to train,

~pineapple_girl

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 3:52pm
I would never be with a virgin. I would feel like an idiot b.c I'd be like okay place right hand on green and move left hand to blue....lol No but for real that would be odd. I think people change once they are sexually active I know I have and evryone. Youlose that innocence and naiveness and i dont mean that in a bad way but youcan just soooo tell. I'm just a feen so I could never!!!!