I like him... how do i know he likes me.

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Registered: 06-22-2005
I like him... how do i know he likes me.
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Tue, 07-05-2005 - 4:30pm
Hello,
I just recently got out of a serious relationship but I have met a nice guy through friends and i really like him... We've know each other through mutial friends for years and i have always had a crush on him... He lives about an hour and a half away from where i live but the last couple of weekends he has been coming down to the "city" to visit and i guess to see me cause he would never come down this many times before.... Thing between us started to progress around the end of June we ended up hooking up that first night...(not fully) then the next morning he asked me when i was going to come and visit again i told him he should come to the city next week.. and to my suprise he actually did! So we hung out on Saturday night with our mutial friends.. and we went for breakfast on sunday morning... he paid for me which was really nice... He's really shy so he was kinda acting weird the next day.. really quite... I didn't want to read too much into it so i let it be...(he got really loaded the night before and kinda made a an ass of himself so i thought maybe he was embarrassed) after breakfast we went back to our friends house and he said that he had to leave he gave me a kiss and a hug i told him to call me and he said he would.. I asked him to come down the next weekend for Canada Day.. and he seemed pretty interested in coming down only if he could get the day off work... So he called me on Wednessday night and said that there was only a 50% chance that he would be able to come down becasue of work and said that he would call me when he knew for sure... well he never called he didn't come down for Canada Day but he showed up at our friends house and called me from there saying he was in town...So I wasn't really feeling to up to going out especially after the Canada Day celebrations... but he offered to come pick me up.. So i got ready for and then all 4 of us went for dinner.. he paid for my dinner.. I asked him later why he didn't call me back even after i had left a message for him..(I forgot to mention that i had called him) He said he knew i was gonna say something about him not calling... he said that he wanted to suprise me... He's said in the past that he doesn't like talking on the phone but seriously if we aren't going to see each other all the time.. the only way of staying connected is by the telephone.. do you think that would change after he's more comfortable with me... Like i don't need to talk to him a 100 times a day but every other would be nice... So Saturday we went back to our friends house and had some drinks and sat on the patio.. we talked about lots of stuff... We talked about all 4 of us going away for a weekend in August and then to my parents cabin in Sept... He told my friends boyfriend that he likes me and he's already starting to develop some sort of feelings for me already.... So that night we hooked up again.. and in the next day he drove me home we chatted about plans for the August trip and us getting a hotel room for the two of us.. He dropped me off at my house i gave him a hug and he gave me a kiss... and told me that he'll call me... So that's where it lies... My birthday is this weekend and i invited him to come up to the city again.. if he doesn't call me should i call him... Do you think he's totally interested.... Also, i just got out of a two year relationship... and i'm kinda still hung up on my ex... (he broke up with me cause he wasn't ready for a committment and he was apperantly too you.. 23!) This guy that im crushing on has been a long time crush.. and he's a but older 25... So how do i handle this i don't want to mess things up.. i don't want anyone to get hurt.. i know that feeling oh so well.. I like him... I really do... I have been living by these quote
Someone's opinon on how i should handle this situaton...
And if anyone can answer this question for me... Why do guys say there are gonna call and they don't?... My girlfriends say I take that calling thing way to serious....
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Registered: 07-28-2003
Tue, 07-05-2005 - 8:48pm

Kristina, honey,

Go with the flow for a while and quit having sex with him so often/soon... then you'll have your answer.

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Registered: 10-18-2004
Tue, 07-05-2005 - 9:08pm
Definitely take it slow for right now. Let things progress as Elysium said. Enjoy the moments you two have together don't always be wondering what he's thinking (that really annoys guys...hint hint). Calm down a little on the hooking up too b/c honestly then he'll just want you for one thing and it seems as though that is not what you only want. So definitely try to take things slower. Hope I helped.
Steph