Just not feeling it?
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Just not feeling it?
| Sat, 07-16-2005 - 5:48pm |
ok heres my thing, I was in a 5 year relationship with someone that I completly and totally loved. We broke up about a month ago and it wasnt an easy break up for me at all. Things have been very painful and very hard for me. Well I met this guy at work and weve been talking back and fourth for a little while. I was really up front about how things are for me and we agreed to just take it really slow. But im just not really feeling anything or really wanting to be around a lot. Ive got a lot of emotional stuff that im still dealing with, not just my ex but family problems. I feel like im sending mixed siginals but im trying really hard not to. I lived with my ex for about 4 months before we broke up and throughout our whole relationship (since I was 15) we were very attached and close.Now I just feel kind of like taking time for myself I dont feel like I want to let another person in to my life like that again. But I know that he wants to see it go somewhere and I really dont want to hurt his feelings. I like him a lot as a friend, hes a really great person. And if this had happened possibly later down the road i wouldnt have been this way. Any ideas on the best way to handle this?

This sounds like something that just happened to me - except he and I have been dating for several months. If you have emotional baggage, it does you and him a disservice. The best way to handle it is to just come out and say exactly what kind of a relationship you want with him. Yes, it will hurt. But, if it's meant to be...it will be.
--Saff