Should I Tell???

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Registered: 01-19-2005
Should I Tell???
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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 2:08am

This has been on my mind for months and I need to make up my mind b/f I loose my chance! I am not sure if I should tell my good friend that I have really stong feelings for him. We have known each other for about 7 years, but hadn't seen each other for the past 5. A few months ago, he moved back home and we've been hanging out ever since. He was my high school crush (of course he doesnt know) and now that I see him all the time and talk to him practically everyday, my feelings are getting stronger and stronger. We tend to send each other mixed signals so Im not sure if he just sees me as a friend or as more. I want to tell him how I feel but am afraid to mess up our friendship but I don't want to miss my chance. Any advice on this would be SOOOOOO much appreciated. Im so confused....should I tell him or should I keep my feelings to myself????

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 6:27pm
I wouldn't come out and tell "I love you" because you don't know how he feels about you. I'd approach it from the side of asking him out on a date...not hanging out. Yiu could say that you'd like to ask him out for a nice dinner, just the two of you. Asking out on a date will tell him indirectly that you're interested in him as a man. See how he reacts to the idea of seeing you with the eyes of a man and not with the eyes of a friend. If he says "yes" enjoy! If he says "no" then you'll know that he's not interested in more than friendship. It'll be tough because you've have a crush on him for 7 years....it'll be hard to remain just friends.
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Registered: 07-29-2004
Mon, 07-18-2005 - 2:22am
i think you should bring it up like along the lines of "hey, you know when we were in high school... did you ever have a thing for me back then?" you can tell him that you used to have a crush on him. that was so long ago anyway. if you get the sense that he isn't interested, you can still laugh it off like it is all in the past.