age old question...is he into me?

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Registered: 04-28-2005
age old question...is he into me?
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Thu, 07-21-2005 - 3:17pm

ok you hear this one a lot, but i could use some advice on if you all think this guy is into me or not...ill break it down so you can get an idea:

1st of all he is a friend of my brothers (if u remember any of my posts from a couple months ago...this is a different guy, not the brothers best friend, just a friend)

so i see him everyone once in a while when hes out with my brother and groups of people...he is a nice guy and ive only had a few convos with him in group settings...he was in a reallllyyy bad car accident like a year ago and really messed up his back and is on a lot of pain medicine and has surgeries and is suing the people....so hes got a lot of crap to deal with, anyways, so he only comes out every once in a while.

this past weekend, my brother and i were out and we talked with him and agreed to go to this sports bar, the 3 of us, and i had to pick up a drunk friend and take em home first, so i was gonna be late and meet the 2 of them there.....
i called like an hour later to meet up and talked with him, he said my brother got kicked outta the bar and was outside and he would drive him home, i said i was still gonna come up there and he said ok, well we made plans to all meet up so basically we'll hang out and my brother can just wait outside for us to finish.

When i got there we just sat at a table and talked for like almost 2 hours, until the placed closed. He seemed really into the convo, really genuinely interested in what i was saying, and he said a few things that got the wheels turning:

I said i do well in my college classes usually, and he said "ive always figured you do, i knew you were the type to just walk in a take a test and get an A" 9keep in mind ive never really talked to him about anything outside mybrother before, only met him a few times actually.....

then he brought up something i mentioned in casual convo like 2 months ago i forgot i even said about fathers day....

He thought i lived out of town and was just visiting and asked me when i was going back (which i forgot i even told him i used to go to college out of town)

He made good eye contact and the convo was never dull or had quiet moments and when i ran into these 2 guys i knew he even looked a little like they invaded our talk...

He also said "you don't have to sit out here just so i can smoke all these cigarettes, i feel bad......and i was like no im good, and we just kept talking.

so when the placed closed and they booted us out we went back to the cars where my brother was sleeping and he woke him up and said to be nice, and sober up, and not give me drunk trouble on the way home...then said he would see us later, and added prob tomarrow...then showed up at my brothers house the next morning right after i got there gave me a little smile and hello, but i was just leaving so thats the only interaction we have had.....

Soooooo, what do u guys think, im just not sure I just feel like i have some intuition or some knowledge he might have interest in me and getting to know me but i just cant tell...plus hes a friend of my brother, and im the "little sister" to his friend, so thats always adds an element of who knows to the mix....any advice or comments??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-21-2005 - 4:06pm

If he is, he will ask you out, and then you'll know! So don't get all stressed out in the meantime wondering "is he or isn't he". Focus on getting to know other guys as well in the meantime rather than putting all your eggs into this basket.

Sheri

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Thu, 07-21-2005 - 7:58pm
I wouldn't be too optimistic in thinking that the guy is into you. He was into the conversation and such but never said something that suggested he is interested in you as a woman. Hang more with him and see what comes out of that.
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Registered: 06-22-2004
Sat, 07-30-2005 - 2:00pm

I agree with the other posters that you'll know if he's intersted. There doesn't seem to be enough evidence to suggest that he's interested. You two have had very casual encounters that don't really suggest that he's interested. While he may have enjoyed conversing with you, that doesn't mean that he's looking toward dating you. If you only see him occasionally, chances are that he's not really leaning in that direction. You should definitely continue to be cordial towards him when you see him; however, don't hold out for him until you have CLEAR signs of interest. Meet new people and don't put all your eggs in one basket.

Mali