First date...need your advice....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
First date...need your advice....
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Thu, 07-21-2005 - 11:13pm

Hi everyone,

I just went on a blind date with a guy and I am not sure if he is interested or not.

Before going on our date we talked on Tuesday and then he called me again this afternoon and we decided to meet tonight.

So we agreed to meet for a drink. When he first saw me he asked if I was happy with what I saw and I said that I was and he said the same thing. He paid for my drink so I thought that was nice.

During our conversation he said that I was prettier in person than on my photograph and he had already said he found me pretty on the photo I had sent him. He said he liked my hair. A friend of his called and he commented to his friend( who seemed to know that he was meeting me) that I had a nice smile.

Then where I got confused is that our date only lasted one hour. I suggested we go for walk and he said he could only walk for a while because he was tired. I thought that was kind of strange.

But, then he asked me if he could hold my hand. I said no because I had just met him. He also asked me to give him a kiss on the cheek and again I said no. He then gave me a kiss on the cheek and then held my hand for a long time. He said he would call me back.

So what do you guys think? Will he call again or was he just being polite?

Thanks for your advice.

Hugs,

Ginny

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Fri, 07-22-2005 - 1:23am
Dear girl, do you like the guy? How did you feel when he kissed you and held your hand even though you didn't want to reciprocate? Was it uncomfy? Ask yourself those questions before you ask "does he like me?". It was a blind date and if you want to keep seeing this guy you need to know if you'd see yourself going out with him again. From your post, this guy was being nice and polite, BUT that doesn't mean that he'll call you again or that he liked you. It's possible that he was "testing the waters" to see how far you would let him go. However, it's also possible that he liked you because of you. I'd wait to see if he calls you and asks you out on a second date. I'd NOT email or call him first.
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Registered: 07-29-2004
Fri, 07-22-2005 - 1:27am

sounds promising to me. i don't think he would keep trying to hold your hand and kiss your cheek if he wasn't attracted to you.

FWIW, when i was online dating last spring, i remember getting advice not to stay too long on the first date... it was just supposed to be a quick meet and drink. then, if interest was mutual, the second date would be more like a real date. i also heard advice to arrange for a friend to call half an hour into the date. that way, if the date turned out to be a total weirdo, i'd have an easy excuse to bail early.

so maybe this guy has heard the same advice. i'm just saying, don't read too much into it. all you can do is wait and see if he calls. oh, and if he does call, obviously you still need to exercise caution - there are a lot of guys who do online dating just to get laid with no real relationship intentions...

i don't mean to sound cynical. i found my BF through online dating. it just takes some thick skin and persistence.