help! what's a girl to do?
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| Tue, 07-26-2005 - 2:47pm |
My heart is absolutely breaking right now, and I have no idea what to do. So here's my story:
About a week ago I was out with my girlfriends and we were just cruisin this bar and I walked by this guy and we had this intimate eye contact and then I kept walking. Then I was like wait a second, it was insane, i just felt this magnetic pull towards him, so I went back and introduced myself. He was wearing this great 90210 shirt and I told him I loved it (I'm 20 and he's 24 btw) and then he laughed and said "Let's get Married!" so we were just joking around and I turned to my friends and said "This is R. and we're getting Married!" and then we went off to the dance floor and danced and then got beers and sat and talked. Anyways, we talked and talked and we have so much in common, like more than anyone I've ever met. Like we both love all the same bands, movies, we both play guitar, skateboard and the list just goes on and on. Anyways so he kissed me and then my friends came by to tell me they were leaving and I decided to stick around with him and hang out more. So my friends were shocked as hell because I'm Miss Rational and I don't go home with guys and such. Anyways so we went back to his place and just laughed our asses off and made out until the sun came up and then we fell asleep, woke up and made out until 3 in the afternoon and then grabbed a bite to eat. It was crazy. I was head over heels for this boy, he's beautiful, smart, funny, sweet, polite, generous, kind and into the exact same things as me.
So he calls me Monday night and we talked for an hour and made plans for to meet after work on Tuesday. So Tuesday rolls around and we watch a movie, make out and soon it's midnight and I know I should go home, but I stay. So wednesday I call in sick to work to hang around with him all day. We stayed in bed and made out and then we went for breakfast at 1 in the afternoon and then rented a movie. Then it was time for me to go by around 5 so off I went and he tells me to call him thursday afternoon.
So thursday I call him and leave a message and he calls me back and tells me he has bad news, his work called and they need him back on Friday (he works 11 hours north of our city in the oil fields), so we decide to have one last hurrah before he goes. So I rush off to his house and we go for a a nice dinner, then we went and listened to this band play in a park and cuddle and then we went for beers at this little pub. And then I decide to stay over and skip work Friday too because I'm crazy about this boy. So Thursday night we stay up late and make out and things get a little frisky but we finnaly fall asleep around 4 and get up the next day around noon. His work hasn't called him back yet to tell him when they need him, so he says he'll stay the rest of the weekend and he'll go up on Monday. So then we decided to go to the movies and the mall abnd hang out before we go to my friends Charity event. And we go to the charity thing and then to a bar to see a band and then back to his house for pizza and we both fall asleep and get up the next day at one.
So I decided to go home and change and shower and come back to his place later Saturday afternoon. We kiss our goodbye and I'm at home when he calls me and tells me his work called and he has to go tonight. We exchange emails addresses and he says he'll call me from the road and I tell him he's amazing and I adore him and etc.
I'm head over heels for this boy, like insanely crazy for him like I've never been for anyone. I feel like I've known im for 10 years, not a week, like we knew eachother in past lives or something. We just clicked and I've never felt so strongly for someone in my entire life. Like for the past few days I've been crying my head off and I'm crying so hard and hurting so bad it's making me throwup (lovesick huh?).
So he's gone until the end of the summer. He hasn't called or email me yet (It's been 3 nights or so)Now here's the kicker:
I'm moving away to University on the other side of the country, while he'll be living here in town going to University. What do I do? Like we said we'd keep in touch with eachother and he said he was going to be visiting a friend near where I am so we might hang out for a few days this fall and I'll be back at Christmas and summers. But what do I do? I'm crazy about him and have never felt so strongly about someone. (I wasn't this heartbroken when I broke up with me boyfriend of 8 months last summer) What do I do? While I'm away do we keep in contact and become better friends with him and when we see eachother get frisky and close and such?
Opinion/suggestions/comment please?!


My two pesos:
Slow down.
Get to know him as a friend.
Be open to the possibility that you both might meet someone new since you're going to different universities and you're not in an exclusive relationship.
Take care,
Heymum
P.S. You took a very big risk in going back to his place, esp. so soon after meeting him. Anything could've happened to you!! If something had happened, would any of your friends or family have known where to start looking for you? Remember Natalee Holloway (the missing girl in Aruba) and her family. I'm sure there are many people who love you and they'd be devastated and horrified if you were to turn up missing. When you go out with friends, make sure you leave with them too. Don't go off with anyone you don't know.