Saying the "L" word
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Saying the "L" word
| Sat, 07-30-2005 - 4:23pm |
Last nite my boyfriend and i were in bed and i decided to tell him that I loved him. We've been dating for nearly a year so i figured I could do it just fine. Well when tell him i need to say something, he turns around and looks at me and i say it. But instead of I Love you too back, i get a "I kinda figured" back. I was deeply upset. I brushed it off until morning and i tried to get him to talk about it. He really didn't have much to say until we got into the car to take me home. It was a 30 min drive so we got to talk a little- when I wasn't trying to cry-. I know that he cares about me. He shows me he cares, he takes me out, he holds my hand, he's my emotional support, he is just an all around great guy. But it bothers me that he doesn't know if he loves me or not. He says its because of all the changes that are about to happen...me going to college. To me that is a lame excuse, I love him, and i want to be with him, nothing is ever going to stop that. I wish he just understood. Any advice w/coping or what I should do?
Thanx
stacie
Thanx
stacie

Stacie
I agree... It's more in how he acts than what he says. Does he tell you in other ways? Complimenting you and making you feel good? I say that means love. You mention that you're going off to college, so I assume that you're about 17 or 18? He could feel that you two are too young to really know what True Love is. Either way, actions do, in fact, speak louder than words.
~Susan/30/MA
thanx-
stacie
Stacie,
I particularly like these two iVillage articles...
"Take Your Love To The Next Level"
(especially page 4, 'Exchanging the L Word')
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/men/menu/articles/0,12747,426370_420931,00.html
"Translating Man-Speak: What Is He Really Trying To Tell You"
(especially the 3rd section, 'What He Says When He's Serious')
http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/whathethinks/0,,npps,00.html
I've found so many good articles on here that have really helped answer my questions. Who knows? They may help you too, so browse around - especially in the Love & Sex/Understanding Men section.
Good luck! I hope you are able to get the answers that you're looking for.
~Susan/30/MA